Happy Marriage Life – 15 Tips For A Better Marriage
Want to have a happy marriage life? Here are 15 simple tips to help you have a happier, healthier marriage and relationship today.
Let’s chat about a happy marriage life.
No one enters a marriage expecting to become a negative statistic (at least I hope not!).
But here’s the thing: Marriage can be hard work. Yes it can be!
Thankfully there are many things you can do to enhance the odds of success.
We need to remember that it’s the little things matter.
Small gestures and habits lead to success.
Help your marriage to thrive:
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1 – Keep your commitments.
It doesn’t matter whether you promised to take out the trash, pick up the dry cleaning, or be home by 7:00. If you say you will do it, do it.
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2 – Leave the past alone.
Bringing up mistakes from the past only reopens old wounds.
Leave the past in the past.
That’s where it belongs.
You can’t move forward into the future if you keep looking backwards.
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3 – Avoid interrupting your partner.
Take a deep breath and listen until your partner is finished.
You need to listen with both ears and both eyes.
You’ll get your turn soon enough.
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4 – Be grateful.
Keep a diary and list at least one thing about your partner that makes you feel grateful. It might be her smile or the fact that he always makes you laugh.
The simple act of looking for positive traits in your spouse will change your attitude.
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5 – Do something fun together.
As often as possible, spend time together doing something that you both enjoy.
Sharing good times is a great way to become closer.
Sit down together and make a list of activities you both love to do.
Then go and actually do them!
There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps. Ronald Reagan
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6 – Avoid keeping score.
Everyone has their ups and downs.
Things are never exactly 50-50, but things have a way of evening out over time.
Keeping score results in resentment.
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7 – Let go of the small matters.
Divorce is often caused by petty disagreements.
Little problems quickly build up and lead to resentment.
If you can agree on the big stuff, the little stuff is merely a distraction.
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8 – Give your partner some privacy.
Avoid snooping unnecessarily.
Stay out of your partner’s email account and give them the space they require to be an individual.
Just like you deserve your privacy so too do they.
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9 – Address behaviors.
Avoid attacking your spouse.
It’s more effective to request that your spouse put her dirty dishes in the sink than to ask her why she’s such a slob.
Address the behavior and avoid making personal attacks. You aren’t annoyed necessarily by the person but by their behavior. Learn to separate those two things out.
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10 – Have a planned date-night.
At least twice a month, get out of the house and go on a real date.
Take turns making plans and surprise each other.
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11 – Be respectful in public.
Ridiculing or insulting your spouse is never acceptable, but it’s far more damaging when done in front of others.
If you must be negative, wait until you’re back in the privacy of your home.
That’s when you can have a private and civil conversation without attacking your partner.
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12 – Ask yourself what you can do to strengthen the relationship.
It’s challenging, if not impossible, to change someone else.
They are entitled to their own thoughts.
They have their own free will just like you do.
The only person you can change is yourself and your thoughts on the situation.
Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction. Antoine de Saint-Exupery
We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love. Tom Robbins
In the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make. Paul McCartney
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13 – Focus on the positive.
Some relationship experts believe that divorce results from a decrease in positive events, rather than an increase in negative events.
Celebrate whenever something good happens!
Even when it is something really small.
If you don’t probably celebrate the small things, you don’t give them the value they deserve.
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14 – Give at least five compliments for each criticism you give.
Social scientists believe that each criticism requires five compliments to undo the damage.
Be positive and offer compliments at least five times a day.
You can measure the happiness of marriage by the number of scars that each partner carries on their tongues, earned from years of biting back angry words. Elizabeth Gilbert
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15 – Realize that your spouse isn’t responsible for your happiness.
News alert: they really, really aren’t.
Most people find that their level of happiness eventually returns to the pre-marriage level.
If you want to be happy, you need to do things that make you happy and you need to be responsible for your own thoughts.
I think of how each person in a marriage owes it to the other to find individual happiness, even in a shared life. That this is the only way to grow together, instead of apart. Emily Griffin
All in all, a happy marriage is the result of valuing and respecting each other every day.
Tending to your marriage is like tending to a garden.
It’s necessary to pull the weeds, but do so with a smile on your face.
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Make your marriage a priority.
Give your marriage and your spouse the attention they deserve.
A perfectly great marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
Many marriages would be better if the husband and wife clearly understood that they’re on the same side. Zig Ziglar
A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. Mignon McLaughlin
A great marriage is not when the perfect couple comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences. Dave Meurer
It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages. Friedrich Nietsche
Marriage: If you want something to last forever, you treat it differently. You shield it and protect it. You never abuse it. You don’t expose it to the elements. You don’t make it common or ordinary. If it ever becomes tarnished, you lovingly polish it until it gleams like new. It becomes special because you have made it so, and it grows more beautiful and precious as time goes by. F. Burton Howard
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