I FEEL LIKE A FAILURE

 

I Feel Like A Failure – 2 Strategies That Will Fix This

Ever said the words: I feel like a failure? Here are 2 strategies to implement in order to feel like a winner instead.

 

 

Let’s chat about the words: “I feel like a failure.”

I wish I could tell you a lie and say that you will never fail or lose in life but that simply isn’t the truth.

 

Life is full of ups and downs and sometimes has a few sideways thrown in too.

 

When things go wrong or don’t go as planned, or when something happens to throw us off balance and doubt ourselves it can be tough to deal with.

After all, we all want things to go well and to end up as ‘winners’.

But life will always throw challenges at us, and we can’t control everything. Nor should we try.

Here’s the truth – we are often going to fail. But we can fail forward.

We can use those experiences to learn something new. It’s not what happens to you but what you do with what happens to you that makes the difference.

 

Here are two easy ways that you can always come out on top.

 

 

I FEEL LIKE A FAILURE

I FEEL LIKE A FAILURE

STRATEGY 1 – Focus on Your Strengths

 

We’re a bunch of contradictions – sorry to break it to you.

Sometimes we will feel happy, sometimes we will feel sad.

Other times we will feel hopeful, pessimistic, frustrated and overwhelmed.

These are all totally normal emotions to experience. 

This is part of the normal human experience.

We also have a whole load of strengths and weaknesses that affect what we do and how we do it, but we tend to put more focus on our weaknesses and not our strengths.

A strength is something that you do consistently well– it’s something you’re just able to do, you’re hard-wired to do it well and you get an inherent satisfaction from doing it.

So what are you great at?

Please don’t tell me nothing.

We all were born with strengths even if we don’t always recognise it in ourselves.

It could be tackling and solving complex problems, empathising with people, having a lively imagination or being able to make the perfect pasta.

Focusing on what you do well rather than what you’re not so good at makes all kinds of sense.

 

When you look at what you’re not good at you feel bad about yourself and your ability.

 

It’s time to stop beating yourself up.

It’s time to shift your perspective.

When you focus on and play to your strengths you’re guaranteed to get results, and can even eliminate any negative effect your weaknesses might have.

 

I FEEL LIKE A FAILURE

I FEEL LIKE A FAILURE

STRATEGY 2: Set Things Up Ahead Of Time

 

Sure, there will be times when you can just head into something, do brilliantly at it and get the result you were hoping for (normally if you’re playing to your strengths).

But other times you might blunder forwards, wing it and not get the result you wanted.

That is exactly what is SUPPOSED to happen.

Why is this true?

Because you are a human.

Whatever challenges or opportunities you’re facing you’ll stand a much better chance of getting a great result if you set things up to succeed ahead of time.

 

So what exactly do you want to happen?

 

What solution, outcome or result would be great?

Take some time to really think about the answer to this question.

Get really clear on the outcome you want from what’s facing you and how it would feel to get the outcome you’re looking for. Then start breaking it down – what can you do to set things up so that your desired outcome happens?

What needs to be put in place?

What will help to make what you want to happen, happen?

And to ensure the best outcome, what are you willing to do?

 

Until next time, dream big my friend,

Frances  xx

 

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