Be Patient – 7 Steps To Developing Patience With Kids
Want to know how to be patient with kids? Here are 7 steps to develop more patience with kids (when you really need it!)
Let’s chat about being patient.
Here’s a pretty accurate truth: Children can be annoying.
They like to play games that sometimes adults don’t (cough, cough) really enjoy.
When is the last time you actually wanted to play with dolls, climb a tree, or ride your bike up and down the cul-de-sac (assuming you had a ton of other stuff to do at the same time)?
They’re loud.
They complain.
They know how to push your buttons.
Children can be a great source of frustration, yes, it’s true.
But they are also a great source of joy.
As a parent, you can embrace the joy and show your unconditional love with patience.
After all, they depend on you to teach them how to best get along in this world.
Why not exemplify patience and give them a gift they’ll never outgrow?
Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in mind.
Patience is not the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.
Patience is when you dream of roses but walk on thorns and Lego.
A parent who is a master of patience is the master of everything else.
Patience is not passive; on the contrary it is concentrated strength. Bruce Lee
Patience is a key element of success. Bill Gates
By staying on top of your reactions you will be able to develop patience and tolerance, two distinct traits required for achieving long-term success. Annabelle Higgins
Thankfully you can become a more patient parent with these strategies:
HOW TO BE PATIENT
1 – Understand your trigger points.
When are you most likely to be unreasonably impatient?
Is it at bedtime?
After a hard day at work?
- Make a list of your trigger points and keep it handy.
- Is there anything you can do to change the situation?
- Maybe you could listen to relaxing music on the ride home after a long day.
- Could you alter your children’s bedtime routine?
HOW TO BE PATIENT
2 – Where does the challenge lie?
You’ve seen wonderful children with impatient parents and misbehaving children with incredibly patient parents.
Neither situation is ideal.
How well do your children behave?
It’s not easy to assess our own kids accurately.
- Ask the most reasonable person you know whether they consider you to be a patient or impatient person. Then ask them how well they think your children behave. Ask them to be completely honest.
- Put your attention where it will be most productive.
- You’re not doing yourself, your children, or the rest of society any favors if you tolerate poor behavior from your children.
HOW TO BE PATIENT
3- Visualize yourself being patient in challenging situations.
Use your list of situations that try your patience the most and imagine yourself dealing with those situations calmly and effectively.
When you’re faced with the real situation, you’ll have a better chance of dealing with it appropriately.
HOW TO BE PATIENT
4 – Be patient with yourself.
Everyone is impatient at times.
We aren’t static.
We grow and evolve into different human beings as we go through life.
This is good news, because it means we have the ability to change. Accept that you’re only human and that you’ll have the occasional bad day. We all have them!
HOW TO BE PATIENT
5 – Pause before you act or speak.
The greatest damage occurs when you fail to take a moment before making a decision.
You can save yourself a lot of grief if you’ll take a minute to pause when you’re upset.
Take 10 deep breaths, regain your composure, and then make your decision.
HOW TO BE PATIENT
6 – Give yourself a timeout.
If you’re unable to find a peaceful mental place, take 15 minutes.
When you’re upset, you lose the ability to make intelligent decisions.
If no one is bleeding or on fire, they’ll survive for 15 minutes while you collect yourself.
HOW TO BE PATIENT
7 – Consider the perspective of your child.
Young children have little power or control over their lives.
You’re holding all the cards.
When you act in a way that’s frightening or unreasonable, your child can’t trust you.
What could be more frightening?
You could be causing more damage than you realize.
On the other hand, children are also quite resilient and forgiving.
You don’t have to be perfect, but it’s important to be reasonable.
Your children deserve it and they do deserve your patience.
All in all, if you’re impatient with your children, you’re not alone.
Children can be a challenge to your ability to remain calm, cool, and collected.
However, you can change.
You can become a more patient parent.
Enhance your ability to deal with frustration and prevent frustration from occurring with these tips you can use every day.
The timing isn’t always right, but eventually destiny steps in.
All you need is patience.
After all, the day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit.
The same truth applies to our kids – sometimes we just need to patiently wait to reap the fruits and rewards of all our efforts.
Trust me, it will be worth it in the end!
Have patience will all the world but first of all with yourself. Saint Francis De Sales
Patience is also a form of action. August Rodin
Patience is not the ability to wait but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting. Joyce Meyer
Calmness makes big problems easily solved. Harry Slyman
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