How To Make Yourself Happy – 8 Steps To An Amazing Life
Want to know how to make yourself happy? Here are the 8 steps you need to take to begin living a happier life.
Let’s chat about how to make yourself happy.
I often say that life is short and time is precious.
You only get to live one life so you may as well make it as amazing as possible.
So how is that going for you so far?
Are you living the exciting life you hoped you would be living?
If it’s not exciting is it at least fulfilling and does it fill your heart with happiness?
If not, why not?
Here’s the truth: you don’t have to settle for mediocrity and a life that fails to excite you.
Instead, you have the power to create a life that fills you with joy, love, and enthusiasm.
Why do so many people fail to reclaim that power?
Everyone wants to have an amazing life, but they aren’t prepared to do the work to make it happen.
They expect their dreams to just miraculously fall right into their laps.
Don’t be a dream-waiter. Be a dream-chaser!
You can be one of the few that actually accomplish this goal.
It’s important to first identify what the term “amazing life” means to you.
This definition will mean something different to everyone in this world and that’s totally cool.
Your amazing life doesn’t HAVE to look exactly like anyone else’s.
It might in fact be quite different from society’s view on the matter and that’s fine.
We are all unique individuals with unique dreams to chase in this world.
Here’s how to claim your right to live an amazing and exciting life in 8 simple steps:
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TIP # 1 – Brainstorm your amazing life
You’re more likely to have an amazing life if you have an idea of what your amazing life actually looks like.
This is not a step you should rush.
Take a couple of days to consider all the possibilities.
I want you to consider every aspect of your life including:
- Your social circle
- Romantic relationship
- Finances
- Career
- Health
- Hobbies
- Location
You can do some pretty amazing things over the course of your life, but you can’t do everything.
Prioritize what is most important to you and write it all down.
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TIP # 2 – Get rid of everything that is unnecessary
Part of living an amazing life includes getting rid of the crap!
You keep what you want to keep and you dispose of those things that are holding you back.
Your goal is to avoid unnecessary distractions and responsibilities.
Take the time to think about what you are currently giving your time and attention to in life that doesn’t provide an adequate return.
Next, you need to get these things out of your life.
HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY
TIP # 3 – Accumulate resources
Making big changes in your life is stressful.
However, changes are a lot less stressful if you have plenty of supportive people in your life and money in your bank account.
Think of what you need to move your life forward.
Be specific.
Do you need a mentor?
A life coach?
Business support?
A mother’s helper?
A personal trainer?
Focus on accumulating the things you need to move forward in life.
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TIP # 4 – Get started
Drum roll please – nothing happens until you actually take action and start doing something.
You know all the quotes: well done is better than well said.
The path to success is to take massive, determined actions.
Action is the foundational key to all success.
Yadda, yadda, yadda.
Sure you might need some time to plan and prepare, but time is passing by quickly my friend.
It’s super important that you get started ASAP.
In fact, today is the perfect day to start chasing your dreams.
Don’t worry about doing things perfectly.
You can fine tune your approach after you begin receiving feedback from your efforts.
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TIP # 5 – Deal with negative emotions
Negative emotions are some of the most powerful things in the universe.
Oh yes they are.
They can halt or slow your progress or stop you from ever pursuing your ideal life in the first place.
So what in the world can you do about this?
I love this tip by Deepika Verma who said:
Hiding negative emotions is not optimism.
Dealing them with positivity is rightful action.
Remember positive and negative emotions cannot occupy the mind at the same time so take your pick.
And please don’t feel negative emotions.
They are often functional and a sign that you need to change something about the environment or yourself.
- Use one or more of the many tools available to you: counseling, positive thinking, meditation, hypnosis, prayer, or any of the other psychological techniques that exist today to help you deal with negative emotions.
Accept and then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life. (Eckhart Tolle)
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TIP # 6 – Raise your standards
In order to create change you need to raise your standards.
The thing is you’ll never, ever make a million dollars in a year if you’re satisfied with making $200,000.
You’ll never lose those last 20 pounds if you’re okay with carrying them around for another decade.
Accepting mediocrity is par for the course, but it’s not compatible with living an amazing life.
Raise your standards because you will always get what you are willing to settle for.
What changes people is when their shoulds become their musts.
Refuse to lower your standard to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
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TIP # 7- Be flexible. Be committed to your goals, but flexible in your approach
Blessed are the flexible for they will not be bent out of shape.
Oh yes life will not always go according to plan.
Over the course of your journey, you will find yourself presented with some interesting opportunities that at first glance might not look so great.
But those same opportunities might provide a highway leading you straight to your amazing life.
You need to stay committed to your decisions but keep an open mind and flexible approach.
Action and flexibility create opportunity. Garrison Wynn
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TIP # 8 – Be persistent.
There will be plenty of obstacles along the way.
The only important question is: Are you going to allow them to derail your efforts?
You’ll have bad days.
There will be times you lose hope.
It’s important to keep moving forward and not let these bad days get to you.
You can overcome any obstacle if you’re motivated enough and don’t give up.
Persistence guarantees that results are inevitable.
Persistence is a great substitute for talent.
Ambition is the path to success while persistence is the vehicle you arrive in. William Fardley IV
It always seems impossible until it’s done. Nelson Mandela
So if your life isn’t as amazing as you’d like, it’s time to take matters into your own hands.
Implement these 8 simple steps to an amazing life.
You need to create a target, remove the distractions from your life, manage your negative emotions, stay flexible and persistent and never, ever give up.
This is the recipe for success for any goal you may have.
Right now is the best time to begin creating your tomorrow.
Right now is the best time for change.
Right now is the only time you really can depend on.
The time is right, right now. Stop waiting, stop wishing and start doing.
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Until next time, dream big my friend,
Frances xx
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I’m Frances Vidakovic – a mindset & action coach for quietly ambitious women who want to stop overthinking and finally take aligned action. I help women achieve their goals and follow through on what matters, without sacrificing their sanity or soul.