How To Change Yourself – 6 Changes You Need To Make First
Want to know how to change your life? Here are 6 inner changes you need to make to see changes in your outside world.
Let’s chat about how to change your life.
In case you haven’t worked it out yet my friend – you were not born to be superwoman.
News alert:
You are not perfect (but then again no one is) and you can’t control everything in this world (but then again neither can anyone else).
Please don’t think it is a bad thing to discover this.
To the contrary it is such a gift and a weight off your shoulders when you realize this you can’t control other people or outside circumstances.
BUT guess what you can control?
That’s right – you can control the way you respond to what’s happening.
In fact you can’t control anything that goes on outside – the only thing you CAN control is what goes on inside.
There’s little you can control in the world.
Other people, the stock market, weather, or the price of tea in the shops are all things outside of your influence.
Fortunately, you can control yourself, and that’s all you need to control.
Changing your inner world can lead to all the changes you wish to see in your life.
It can be hard to believe that changing your thoughts or attitude can make you healthy, wealthy, and wise, but making inner changes can have dramatic effects on every part of your life.
Enhance your life by making these internal changes:
HOW TO CHANGE YOURSELF
TIP # 1 – How you view failure
Do you view failure as an embarrassment?
Is it something you should avoid at all costs?
What if you viewed failure as simply a step along the way to success?
Failure just means that the approach you used didn’t work.
It’s an opportunity to re-tool your process and try again.
If you keep learning and making improvements, how can you possibly fail in the long-term?
The way you view failure is a big part of whether or not you’ll be a successful person.
How do you view failure? What view of failure would be useful to you?
Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently. Henry Ford
Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly. Robert Kennedy
A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. Albert Einstein
Failure is not a permanent experience.
You must rise above it and choose to be better than you were a moment ago.
Changing and growing is what makes you win.
HOW TO CHANGE YOURSELF
TIP # 2 – Values
Suppose someone valued charity, kindness, and modesty.
What type of life would they lead?
Suppose someone else valued freedom, adventure, and courage.
Now, suppose a third person valued money, power, and greed.
It’s easy to see how these three people would lead very different lives.
- What are your values?
- Do they support the life you want to live?
- Or, is your life in line with your values?
Values are like fingerprints. Nobody’s are the same but you leave them all over everything you do. Elvis Presley
It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are. Roy Disney
Your core values are the deeply held beliefs that authentically describe your soul. John C. Maxwell
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TIP # 3 – Beliefs
Beliefs color how you view the world and make decisions.
If you believe that money is the root of all evil that will certainly derail any efforts to amass wealth.
If you believe that you’re just not good with people, your social life will suffer.
- List some of your beliefs about money, yourself, and life in general.
- How are those beliefs helping or hurting you?
- What beliefs would be helpful for you to manifest and enjoy the life you desire?
Live your beliefs and you can turn the world around. Henry David Thoreau
I’m not interested in your limiting beliefs. I’m interested in what makes you limitless. Brendon Burchard
You begin to fly when you let go of self-limiting beliefs and allow your mind and aspirations to rise to greater heights. Brian Tracy
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TIP # 4 – Attitude
Do you expect things to work out for you, or are you primarily pessimistic?
You’ll be less likely to try to do something if you have negative expectations.
A positive attitude can help with your patience and ability to persevere when things aren’t going well.
Consider how your attitude is impacting the results you’re generating in your life.
If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Maya Angelou
Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen. Michael Jordan
A positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances instead of your circumstances having power over you.
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TIP # 5 – Gratitude.
Giving yourself a reminder of what is already working in your life can positively impact your attitude and expectations.
Having gratitude can also reduce anxiety and alter your perspective.
Take a few minutes in the morning and at night to mentally list the things that make you feel grateful.
You can come up with a long list if you really think about it.
Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for. Zig Ziglar
Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance. Eckhart Tolle
Gratitude turns what we have into enough. Aesop
This is a wonderful day. I’ve never seen this one before. Maya Angelou
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TIP # 6 – Thoughts
Here’s a fun fact: the happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.
Our thoughts are always under our control, even though it might not seem that way.
It’s easy to prove this to yourself.
You can choose to think about an ice cream cone or a green cow right now. You can think about anything you like.
- It’s important to take control of your thoughts.
- If you’re predominately thinking about negative outcomes, you’re going to struggle.
- Monitor your thinking and try to keep your thoughts positive.
Change your thoughts and you change the world. Normal Vincent Peale
Your thoughts are the architects of your destiny. David O. McKay
What you think you become. When you feel you attract. What you imagine you create. Buddha
If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think another negative thought again.
So there you have it – six crucial inner changes you need to make in order to change your life.
Changing yourself internally is the secret key to giving you everything you desire on the outside.
Without making inner changes, it’s extremely challenging to change your behavior.
You’re constantly fighting yourself, but willpower is not enough in the long-term.
Willpower is nothing but the willingness to do something different is what counts.
Willpower is a muscle.
The more you use it, the stronger it gets.
These inner changes however can eliminate the need for willpower.
Rather than battling yourself day after day, make a conscious effort to make these inner changes in order to create the outer changes you desire in your life.
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Until next time, dream big my friend,
Frances xx
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