High Self Esteem – 12 Ways To Feel Confident When You AREN’T
Want to have high self esteem? Here are 12 tips on how to exude confidence (even if you are feeling it just yet).
Let’s chat about high self esteem.
This post will help you exude confidence even if you aren’t feeling it just yet.
Here’s the interesting thing about humans.
No one feels confident and maintains a high self esteem all of the time, but sometimes there are situations where you need to appear confident.
You might be on a date, have a job interview, or attending a company function. In those moments, there is no space for insecurity and doubt.
This is where it can be helpful to appear confident, even if you’re feeling anything but.
Thankfully there are plenty of things you can do to appear confident and in turn increase your self esteem when your innate confidence seems to be missing.
Try these tips if you wish to ever convince the world that you’re confident, even if you’re shaking in your boots:
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1 – Maintain good eye contact.
Consider where confident people look while you’re engaged in a conversation with them.
They aren’t looking at their feet or gazing around the room.
They look you in the eye.
This isn’t a staring contest, but a sign that you are comfortable with who you are and the situation.
Look the other person in the eye the majority of the time and do your best to maintain good eye contact.
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2 – Stand or sit up straight.
Confident people don’t slouch.
They stand tall and proud and with their shoulders back.
The same goes for sitting.
People that lack confidence slouch and try to appear as small as possible.
Don’t do that!
Instead aim to be tall and make people notice.
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3 – Keep your hands out of your pockets.
This will reduce fidgeting.
Showing your hands also shows confidence.
You have nothing to hide.
Keep your hands out where others can see them.
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4 – Avoid fidgeting.
Your hands don’t have to be in your pockets to fidget.
Avoid picking at your clothes, your face, or your hands.
This is a sure sign of nervousness.
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5 – Smile.
If you’re happy and confident then obviously a natural thing to do is smile.
Smiling puts others at ease.
It puts you at ease, too so smile even if you are nervous inside.
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6 – Walk confidently.
I recommend that you watch movies to see how a confident person walks.
Models walk the same tall way down a catwalk, as if they know they are confident and comfortable in their skin.
Take purposeful strides.
Look like you have someplace to go without looking like you need to get there in a hurry.
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7 – Speak slowly.
Does James Bond speak quickly?
No.
He takes his time and enjoys the attention.
Confident people have been shown to speak more slowly than the average person.
Nervous people on the other hand tend to speak more quickly.
Slow down and take your time.
People will assume you’re confident.
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8 – Unfold your arms.
When you fold your arms, it looks like you’re trying to protect yourself or are defensive.
But there’s nothing to fear, so unfold your arms, be tall, and smile. Just allow your arms to hang naturally by your side.
There is no need to put a wall or barrier up in front of you.
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9 – Keep your head up.
There’s nothing interesting going on down on the floor.
This is the human version of an ostrich sticking its head in the sand.
If you’re pretending to be confident, keep your head up.
By the way, an ostrich only sticks its head in the sand to check on its eggs.
Seeing as you aren’t an ostrich with any eggs to check on keep your head held up high.
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10 – Speak at a reasonable volume.
When you’re feeling shy, you’re likely to speak too softly.
It’s better to be a little too loud than a little too soft if you’re trying to appear confident.
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11 – Use gestures when you speak.
Gesture naturally when you’re speaking.
You might want to watch your favorite actor for tips.
How do they gesture?
Just ensure they’re playing a confident role!
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12 – Tell yourself that you’re confident.
Repeat to yourself, “I am confident and powerful.”
Keep repeating it to yourself. It will crowd out other thoughts, and you might even believe yourself.
Try out a few affirmations and see which one makes you feel the best.
All in all, it is super easy to convince others that you’re feeling confident, even if you’re not.
Simply adopt the mannerisms of someone that is confident, and you’ll look confident to the rest of the world.
Tell yourself you’re a confident person.
Pretend you’re confident and you’ll start feeling that way.
It’s all about ACTING AS IF because when you act as if, that eventually becomes your reality.
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