Becoming Her – It’s Time To Step Inside Her Shoes
This year is the year to focus on BECOMING HER. The version of you who achieves her dreams and shows up in a way you love. Here’s how...
Let’s chat about this idea of becoming her – the person you dream of being.
This post is going to be so juicy, so golden, so valuable that I had no idea how to title it other than to call it BECOMING HER: LET’S STEP INTO HER SHOES.
Because I promise you – in order to get in the spirit of this idea, you will need to be a little open to doing something new, be open to having a little fun and coming along with me for a ride.
The impetus for this blog post came from me sitting down to really think about the things I want to achieve in 2023, both in my business and personal life. I always use the last few weeks in December to reflect on the year that has just passed.
The wins and the lessons I’ve learned, to look back at my journal and really see how far I have come over the 365 days.
Just to give you a behind the scenes look at my business review, in 2022 my list of accomplishments is pretty long though I was convinced before doing this reflection that I had achieved nothing new at all.
Yep I’m serious…before I sat down to do this exercise I was convinced that nothing new had happened, I couldn’t think of anything particularly special that I had accomplished this year but once I sat down to do the exercise it all came back to me.
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This year I streamlined my business down to one main focus InspiringMomLife, I wrote a new book called WHEN YOUR WORST ENEMY IS YOU – HOW TO FINALLY GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY, what I think is my best book yet!
I joined two high end coaching programs, I created and offered a new private 1:1 coaching program called THE DREAMING TO DOING COACHING EXPERIENCE in my business for the first time in years, after focusing solely on selling digital courses.
I served more than 1000s of students in those courses, I created two new courses – the first was LET YOUR BIZ BE EASY and the second was TAKE BACK YOUR TIME COURSE which is my signature program that teaches you How To Gain Back 5 Hours Every Week To Spend On YOU And Your Goals (No Matter How Busy You Are).
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I also completely streamlined my Inspiring Life Teachable store, either retiring or bundling up my courses so that only my coaching and 10 core offers remain and are available to buy. I sold off and retired a few extra websites I used to own.
I created six amazing workshops including:
THE WHO BEFORE HOW workshop
3 DAY ZERO GUILT workshop
WAKE UP! Workshop
THE REINVENTION FORMULA
CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK ABOUT YOUR KIDS and
IT’S ONLY TOO LATE IF YOU NEVER TRY.
I got more comfortable on my camera and the list goes on and on.
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Then there is the growth I had in my personal life and once again ahead of time I couldn’t really recall anything particularly life changing happening this year but of course lots of things had.
There were so many changes that I made happen – yes me, I had it happen! – financially and health wise plus within my family, we welcomed a new niece and great niece into my family.
I’ve been totally sugar-free since September. I’m fitter and healthier than I have been in years. My daughter graduated from high school this year and is off to university next year.
I rediscovered stoicism in my life which I absolutely love and of course the list didn’t only include rainbows, butterflies and daisies.
For four months this year I entered a season in my life which was really difficult. My father-in-law who lived with us in a granny flat behind our home with his wife fell ill.
He was in hospital and nursing homes and ended up passing away at the end of August and during those four months it felt like I had pressed a pause button on so many other things in my life, so we could be there for him every day.
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Even though looking back at those months, it was hard in so many ways I still love and am so proud of the way I showed up during those difficult moments. We said goodbye to other loved ones too.
But the positive thing to come out of some of these darker moments is knowing that I had always made it clear to these people how much I appreciated them, I didn’t have any regrets about the way I showed up with them or how often I showed up etc.
Which brings me to today’s lesson for the day which is all about BECOMING HER and stepping into the shoes of the person you want to be. Showing up in life in a way you love, which is actually what I teach you to do inside my signature course YOUR INVISIBLE CROWN.
If you have followed me for a while then you will know that this is a core part of the foundation I teach to you: the WHO BEFORE HOW concept. It’s about thinking less about what you want or need to do in life, the actions per se and more about WHO YOU NEED TO BE when you are doing these actions.
One of my most popular PDFs is all about STEPPING INTO YOUR FUTURE SELF NOW because that is the way you achieve your goals in life – by becoming this version of you, the most successful version of yourself, who doesn’t waste her time doubting herself or questioning her ability – she gets to work at making things happen.
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The way you become her is by thinking like her, feeling like her and showing up like her, in this moment right now TODAY as opposed to in the far distant future.
Can you imagine what the best version of yourself would be thinking right now? It’s probably thoughts like: I’ve got this! Nothing, I stop me, everything I touch turns into gold! If something I try doesn’t work I will just try something and never give up because I AM NOT A PERSON WHO GIVES UP.
I will think about what I can do differently, what’s working and not working, I’m someone who figures stuff out! I ask myself how can I be part of the solution rather than the problem, how can I stay motivated even when life throws me a million curveballs.
What is my next right step, what do I need to do every single day to stay in full belief, what can I say to myself when the doubt begins to creep in, what do I need to remove from my life, what do I need to say no to, what do I need to try that I’ve never tried before.
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This my friend is what I am thinking more about as I head into the New Year – I’M THINKING more about WHO I WANT TO BECOME and how I want to show up in all the different areas of my life.
Because trust me, I know from personal experience that it’s one thing to come up with a list of great goals for 2023 like to lose weight, start a biz, travel the world etc and yet another thing to ACTUALLY BE THE PERSON WHO MAKES THOSE GOALS HAPPEN.
Anyone can set lofty goals but guess what, if you don’t believe you have what it takes to make them happen there’s a good chance you won’t make them happen. Now this is not to say that you and I shouldn’t be setting goals for 2023.
Yes, we definitely should be dreaming up exciting stuff that we want to try or achieve next year, hopefully big stretchy goals that take us outside our comfort zone. I know I’m dreaming of all the wonderful things that the future holds for me.
But I also know that it isn’t enough to scribble down a dream or goal onto paper or onto a whiteboard like I do and STOP there. The dream or goal is just the first step and everything that follows will depend HOW YOU SHOW UP WHILE TAKING YOUR actions. Let me repeat that for you one more time, your results will depend on HOW YOU SHOW UP WHILE TAKING YOUR ACTIONS.
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Now I have some exciting stuff planned for you in 2023 to help you dive deeper into this work but the one big takeaway I want you to walk away with after reading this post is this idea of BECOMING HER. Becoming the person you dream of being today by showing up in the same way she did, with her family, with her friends, with her work, with the world around her.
This is how we grow in life and that’s the reason we set goals in the first place – to help us grow and evolve, to help us discover who we are deep down in our core and to bring out into the world. I mean, chasing goals is great and fun but the real reason we do it is so we can grow, so we can explore our potential and learn more about ourselves.
But you might be wondering who is this person I need to become to grow in life and achieve the results I want. I want you to always keep this phrase in your mind every single day: What does this WHO look like? I mean, I have no idea what he or she looks like.
Well this is where you have to put on your imagination and just guess the answer. Ask your brain these next questions: What thoughts would they be thinking? How does he or she speak? How do they dress? How do they carry themselves? How do they interact with others?
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This is something you need to give thought to before you even set off on your goal. Really stop and think about this question.
Can you give a little guess here? I don’t want you to say WELL I DON’T KNOW because when you say I DON’T KNOW you close your brain off from looking for and finding an answer.
Assume you did know. Assume you had to give your best guess. What would your answer be? Because when you can imagine what this WHO looks like through and through and you practice showing up in the world this way, day after day after day, it will be so much easier to take action on the HOW.
It’s like the saying: FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT. You wake up each day with the intention of practicing being that person you would need to be to achieve those goals.
You practice thinking those thoughts of success and you practice feeling those feelings of confidence and courage in advance, knowing that they will ultimately impact the way you take action.
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What I know to be true is that to become her who will need to be willing to fail and see your failures as a learning opportunity.
You will need to be willing to keep going and never give up, you will need to be willing to experiment and step outside your comfort zone.
You will need to be willing to get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable plus tap into your courage even when you’re feeling scared and knowing that the fear may never go away and it’s okay.
You’re willing to take action anyway. You’re willing to do whatever it takes. Becoming her means willing to hold tight onto faith even when that faith waivers and by faith, in this instance I mean having complete trust in something, in yourself, even when the evidence all points to the contrary.
You believe you can do it anyway, even if no one else thinks you can, you believe you have it in you to succeed, even if no one agrees, you believe it can be hard but that’s okay because you can cope with the hard stuff.
I want you to take a moment to think about BECOMING THIS VERSION OF YOU in 2023. If you think you need help with us, make sure to check out my signature course YOUR INVISIBLE CROWN which will show you exactly how to show up each day as the best version of yourself.
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In the New Year I will be releasing more resources to support you on this journey to BECOMING HER which is really about bringing to the surface the person you were born to be.
Someone who is confident and courageous and doesn’t have all the thought drama, negative mind chatter, overwhelm, stress, doubt and unnecessary old baggage that some of us lug around with us wherever we go.
It’s time to put that baggage down – LET IT GO – because I promise you will feel so much lighter entering the New Year without carrying that heaviness, especially if no one else is forcing you to carry it. Put it down, let it go, and get to work at becoming her.
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So if you’re hoping to create change and new results in 2023, make sure to visit me every week on the Inspiring Life School podcast.
As always you know I love and appreciate you all and please know it isn’t enough to just dream about things. You need to go out there and take action, experiment and make things happen.
Remember every word, every action you take today is part of the story you’re writing, the story of your life and if you get to hold the pen that writes this story GO AHEAD AND MAKE IT A GREAT ONE!
Until next time, much love and as always dream big my friend.
Much love, Frances Vidakovic xxx
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I’m Frances Vidakovic – a mindset & action coach for quietly ambitious women who want to stop overthinking and finally take aligned action. I help women achieve their goals and follow through on what matters, without sacrificing their sanity or soul.