7 Biggest Couple Challenges And How To Solve Them
Looking to solve the most common couple challenges? Here are the 7 biggest couple challenges and what you can do about them today.
Let’s chat about couple challenges.
Relationships are challenging my friend!
At the beginning, it’s all fun and games, but relationships evolve over time This is normal my friend!
Your ability to handle these couple challenges effectively will ultimately determine how successful your relationship will be.
Remember a strong relationship requires choosing to love each other, even in those moments when you struggle to like each other.
I think it helps immensely to be aware of the most common relationship challenges so that you can come up with a game plan to deal with them.
Couple Challenges And How To Solve Them
All relationships have challenges sooner or later. Here are the 7 most common ones.
RELATIONSHIP CHALLENGE
1 – The realization that your partner isn’t everything you need.
Expectations are high in relationships.
Before you know the other person well, it’s easy to imagine they’re everything you’d ever need from another person: a soul mate, sounding board, best friend, and perfect lover.
- After five years of marriage, the truth slowly reveals itself. Your partner isn’t everything you need. But of course he isn’t! No single person can completely satisfy the needs of another.
- Expect to have no more than 80% of your needs fulfilled by your partner. You’ll have to find the other 20% somewhere else. (If your figures are more like 65%/35% that’s okay too!
- This might include the need to watch chick-lit movies with friends or engage in intellectual conversations about topics he isn’t interested in or even just to shop or have a girls night out with.
Couple Challenges And How To Solve Them
2 – Communication issues.
Communication is like sex.
One partner seems to want to do it more than the other.
Set aside time each day for a few minutes to talk.
Practice good listening skills.
That’s the price we must be paid to have a successful relationship.
But guess what? It’s worth the price.
Couple Challenges And How To Solve Them
3 – Trust issues.
Some people genuinely have a difficulty trusting others.
Others are resentful when they don’t receive the level of trust they think they deserve.
It goes without saying that it is important to be trustworthy in a relationship and to be able to expect the same from your partner.
Thankfully there are little things you can do to build trust.
- Be on time.
- Be open.
- Avoid jealousy.
- Be honest.
- Do what you say you will do.
Couple Challenges And How To Solve Them
4 – There will be financial disagreements.
Financial issues often lead to relationship challenges.
It’s easy for the feelings of stress and anxiety to be taken out on your partner.
You have to blame someone, right?
- The solution is to form an alliance with your partner and deal with the financial challenges head-on. Otherwise, one person will deal with it alone and resentment occurs.
Couple Challenges And How To Solve Them
5 – Division of labor.
In some cultures, there’s no disagreement.
Men do certain chores and women do theirs.
Nowadays in the Western world, that division is not always so clear.
- Make a list of all the chores that need to be done. Divide them into three lists – daily, weekly, and monthly.
- Sit down together and divide up the list in a way that you’re both satisfied with. You might consider taking turns choosing chores. After a few months, you can swap.
- Or at least come up with a plan that makes both parties happy (even if it’s by coming up with a happy compromise).
Couple Challenges And How To Solve Them
6 – The urge to cheat is real for some people.
This is a pretty devastating challenge and hurdle to be faced with and one that is extremely difficult to get over.
Monogamy sounds great on paper, but for some people, it is challenging in practice.
- I do encourage people to understand that even if monogamy feels challenging, it doesn’t mean it isn’t worth the effort.
- Cheating is the result of short-term thinking.
- You need to keep your eye on the long-term perspective. Once your trust is destroyed by an unfaithful act, it is extremely difficult to rebuild.
Couple Challenges And How To Solve Them
7 – Getting stuck in a rut.
This happens when there’s too much routine and the future doesn’t feel compelling enough.
You need to set a few goals together to make the future feel more exciting.
Plan a trip or a big purchase.
Get out of the house at least once a week for dinner, a walk or even just a drive to the local beach or bay.
Couple Challenges And How To Solve Them
Once again, you need to avoid the belief that a good relationship is easy 100% of the time.
It creates unreasonable expectations.
Expect that challenges will occur (because hey they will!) – that way you can be prepared for them.
Couple Challenges And How To Solve Them
All relationships have problems but the strength of your relationship is defined by your ability to overcome them.
A relationship is like a house.
When a lightbulb burns out, you don’t go and buy a new house.
You fix the lightbulb. In the end, a true relationship is two imperfect people refusing to give up on each other.
I’m not telling you it is going to be easy – I am telling you it is going to be worth it. Art Williams
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