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Happy Wife Happy Life – 8 Tips To Help A Struggling Relationship

Do you believe in the mantra – happy wife happy life? Here are 8 tips to help strengthen a struggling relationship.

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Let’s talk about this saying HAPPY WIFE HAPPY LIFE today.

Do you believe in the mantra – happy wife happy life?

If so, you will love these 8 tips to help strengthen a struggling relationship

We have all heard this saying before right? And it makes sense in theory.

When you aren’t happy, this negativity permeates every aspect of your marriage and family.

But here’s the thing: all relationships face challenges from time to time.

 

 

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It’s not reasonable to expect that any relationship will be a bed of roses and filled with rainbows 24/7.

 

The only problem with that fact is that we don’t receive a lot of instruction on how to deal with challenges in relationships.

We think relationships should be easy.

That we should never fight or disagree with each other.

This stuff certainly wasn’t covered in high school.

But if you want to be in a relationship, it’s necessary to deal with disagreements and struggles that happen along the way.

You need to need these challenges are NORMAL and that it isn’t up to someone else to solve them for you.

As an emotionally mature adult, you need to take responsibility for your own life and manage your thoughts and emotions well.

No one ever said it was easy but learning these tools will be sooooo worth it my friend.

 

Consider using these 8 tips to heal your relationship and feel close to your partner again:

 

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TIP # 1 – Return to the past.

 

Let me guess, there was probably a time when your relationship was great.

Remember those times together right at the beginning when things were going well.

Remember your first date.

Remember your favorite trip you took together.

Remember how much you loved learning someone new about your partner.

 

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Relive how things used to be.

 

A great way to feel love right now is to embrace those feelings of happiness again.

To feel love towards your partner, YOU NEED TO THINK LOVING THOUGHTS ABOUT YOUR PARTNER.

It sounds pretty obvious because it is.

Your thoughts will impact the emotions you feel so what thoughts are you thinking about your partner right now?

You may find that your love for your partner is still buried underneath those feelings of anger or resentment, like a fire that refuses to go out.

 

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TIP # 2 – Identify the issue.

 

What exactly is wrong?

What are the biggest issues you are facing in your relationship?

Are you feeling taken for granted?

Neglected?

Did your partner lie to you?

Did he hurt your feelings?

Is there something that went wrong?

 

  • Be clear with each other about what’s coming between you.
  • Identify the challenge and you can begin to find a solution. Remember you can’t fix a problem that you can’t define. And as my favorite quote points out: you are either part of the problem or part of the solution.

 

 

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TIP # 3 – Schedule time together.

 

Many relationships struggle simply due to not spending enough time together.

The simple solution to this is to schedule time together on a regular basis.

Turn off the TV and get out of the house together.

Play a board game.

Go see a movie.

Take a walk in the park together.

DO SOMETHING TOGETHER that makes you feel connected with your partner.

It’s harder to feel close to your partner if you are constantly apart.

 

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TIP # 4 – Forgive.

 

How are you with forgiving people for their past transgressions?

Are you good at forgiving or do you like to hold onto things for way too long?

The issue in many relationships is the accumulation of resentments over a long period of time.

But when you hold onto hate and anger, those are the feelings that will be clouding your mind and heart.

It is time to let them go.

Because if you can’t let go of the times you feel that you were wronged in some way, eventually that load becomes too much to bear.

It’s heavy FOR ANYONE to carry around a load of bitterness everywhere you go and the reason you may choose to let it go is simply be because you want to feel lighter and more free.

You are doing this for you, not for anyone else.

We are all humans.

We all make mistakes!

 

 

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  • One of the secrets to a lasting relationship is a strong ability to forgive quickly.

 

Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, it means choosing to remember love instead. – Kyle Gray

 

The act of forgiveness takes place in our own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person. – Louise Hay

 

He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass. – George Herbert

 

It’s not just other people we need to forgive. We also need to forgive ourselves. For all the things we didn’t do. All the things we should have done.  Mitch Albom

 

 

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TIP # 5 – Take a trip.

 

Want a good reason to plan a holiday?

Well I’m happy to give it to you.

Going on a holiday is a great way to reset your relationship.

So plan a trip together.

Ensure it’s a place that you’re both excited to visit.

 

Build some new, positive memories together.

 

Get away from your current home and routine, and you’ll find it’s easier to reconnect with each other.

A trip is almost always fun and bond-building, especially when you are away from the pressure of everyday life.

 

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TIP # 6 – Compromise.

 

Sorry I hate to break it to you but you can’t have everything your way.

Relationships require a lot of compromise.

It’s about giving and taking, not just taking and taking.

One of the best things you can do is learn to compromise in life, but not in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Most of us think compromise is a super sucky word but it simply a situation in which people accept something slightly different from what they really want, because of circumstances or because they are considering the wishes of other people.

I’m speaking about reaching agreements with love and compassion, not bitterness and resentment.

 

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Compromising is a skill, and it’s not always easy to learn.

  • We all have preferences, but they can’t be met all the time when you’re in a relationship. It’s one of the disadvantages of being in a relationship.

 

Compromise is not about losing but about deciding that the other person has just as much right to be happy with the end result as you do. Donna Martini

 

No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater. Sarah Dessen

 

 

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TIP # 7 – Avoid giving up too soon.

 

Many people seem to believe that a good relationship shouldn’t require work.

That it should be easy and the moment it’s too hard, they want to give up.

Ah, I’m sorry but I still haven’t come across any couple that has not faced one challenge in their relationship.

Even though I’ve been married for more than 20 years and we are content and happy with our relationship, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t require work to make it work well.

Maybe it’s the definition of work here that seems to throw us off but I’m defined work here as simply EFFORT or an activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result.

I want my result to be a happy marriage so that will of course require some effort on my part.

Here’s some important things to note:
 

  • The early stages of relationships are often quite easy. Everyone is on their best behavior, and everything is so new.
  • However, in a few months, reality sets in and things become harder. How hard are you willing to work to have a good relationship? That’s up to you.
  • Commitment is an act, not a word and commitment is what transforms a promise into reality.
  • Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do long after the mood you said it in has left you.

 

 

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TIP # 8 – Get professional help.

 

If all else fails and you feel like your relationship is really struggling, please seek help from a professional.

You wouldn’t rebuild the electric transmission in your car.

You wouldn’t change a toilet without the help of a plumber.

Consider the idea that you might not be able to fix your relationship on your own either.

Give an expert a chance to offer you some help before throwing in the towel.

Yes, it may feel weird and uncomfortable, but isn’t experiencing some initial discomfort worth it if your result is a relationship that feels full of possibility again? 

 

Here’s the truth: if you have a relationship, you’re going to have challenging times.

 

This is unavoidable.

This is a part of life and relationship.

It’s normal to go through different seasons together.

To go through ups and downs.

There will be struggles to navigate and it’s OKAY.

 

Fortunately, most relationship issues can be overcome if both partners are committed and patient.

 

So give your relationship the attention and time it needs to heal and thrive.

Good relationships are an important part of a fulfilling life.

Give it the time and attention it deserves.

Wishing you best of luck with your relationship.

Remember you can always check out my super simple course here on improving your relationship.

Wishing you much love,

Frances Vidakovic xxx

 

 

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