HOUSEHOLD CHORES FOR MEN

 

 

 

Household Chores – 5 Ways To Get Men To Help Out At Home

 

Household chores and men! Here are 5 genius ways to get men to help around the home (that actually do work!)

 

 

Let’s chat about household chores and men.

Here’s the thing: in most households, it’s super hard work to raise a family, pay for the bills and keep the house in good shape.

 

For most home to run smoothly, it’s necessary for all the members of the family to pitch in.

 

This includes your spouse or partner, if you are in a relationship.

This gets even trickier when you both work a full-time work schedule, but hey, even stay at home moms need help from others.

This article is specifically written for those in a relationship, where your partner might not contribute or help you – even though, the truth is you could appreciate his help. In fact, you desperately need it.

 

News alert: it makes sense for partners to work as a team to complete the household chores.

 

Gone are the days where a female had to put the kids to bed, clean the entire house, and clean up after your husband all by your lonesome – just because she was a female.

These days, your partner can be as mindful about household chores as you are!

So let’s talk about what we can talk about that (if your partner seems particularly resistant to helping you around the house).

 

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1 – Every man is different.

 

 

It needs to be said that just like not all females are the same, not all men are the same either.

Some men intentionally plot to minimize their workload around the house by acting oblivious, while others truly are oblivious.

Like seriously, they have no idea what needs to be done or that they need to help do it.

Others do what needs to be done without being asked (little angels, these ones are!).

 

Now your husband likely falls somewhere between the three.

 

There may be a reason for this.

For starters, let’s look at what his own childhood experience was like. In my own example, my husband grew up in a house where his mom did everything and his dad was never called upon to do anything and HIS MOM LOVED IT WAY.

Like genuinely loved it.

She wasn’t resentful about it; she did it with love.

So, when we got married, it wasn’t natural for my husband to help around his house (but he would help with anything if I specifically asked him to.

Otherwise, it genuinely wasn’t on his radar!)

 

  • Keep in mind that what has worked for your sister and your brother-in-law may not be the right approach for getting your husband to pull his weight around the house.

 

  • Every man is different. Resist the temptation to compare.

 

  • Each man has his own positive qualities, even if a natural disposition to helping around the house isn’t one of them. I mean, you wouldn’t have chosen to be with your partner if he didn’t have some amazing qualities in the first place!

 

  • Approach your husband according to his personality. Be sensitive and caring when having a conversation about the way things may need to change re: household contributions.

 

  • Consider his personality and motivations carefully, and approach him with a loving spirit.

 

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2 – Give a little push.

 

“You need to train your man to do what you want” is a common saying amongst wives.

Ah this could be true if your hubby was a puppy but a gentler approach in love is a much more respectful and effective approach.

Provide him with a push in the right direction by specifically saying what you need help with and respond in a positive way when he makes an effort.

 

  • It’s important to realize that no one likes to be nagged. Be tactful in your approach.

 

  • Try saying something like, “Honey, my back is killing me. Vacuuming the floors every week is really taking its toll on my back. Would you mind taking over this chore?”

 

  • Or hey, would you prefer to cook dinner or wash up? You can take your pick (if you seriously don’t mind which one he does).

 

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3 – Make a list.

 

Sometimes, men simply have little idea how many things must be done to run the household.

Even I myself forget all the little tasks I do on a daily basis.

With a little more perspective, many men jump at the chance to help carry the load.

That’s why you need to be super clear on what needs to be done and who can help with what specific task

 

  • Make a chore chart for your family and hang it prominently in the kitchen.

 

  • Give every member of the family a colored star (such as Sara has blue stars next to her chores and Jack has red) and be sure to include both you and dad within the chart.

 

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4 – Be specific.

 

Remember how I said it’s important not to be vague.

Make sure to ask your husband to help out with specific chores.

He likely has his own (very different) definition of what “helping out” means, and you can effectively come together by spelling out exactly what you need.

 

  • If you’re vague in your description, he may think that loading the dishwasher and wiping the counters every night is enough.

 

  • Meanwhile, you were hoping that he’d vacuum and fold laundry twice weekly. Be specific! Communication is the key to a smoothly running home.

 

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5 – Call in the big guns.

 

If all else fails, let your husband know that if he isn’t prepared to help you will need to call in backup.

 

  • Take it upon yourself to get quotes from local cleaning services and ensure that he’s home when you’re doing the walkthrough of your home with the consultant.

 

  • Once he hears that it’ll cost your family $400 per month to pick up his slack, he’s likely to be more willing to help.

 

  • Or maybe he will say: LET’S DO IT, LET’S GET A CLEAR; OUR LIVES WILL BE SO MUCH EASIER WITH A WEEKLY CLEANER HELPING US OUT!

 

 

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Once again, it is important to note that men and women often have very different ideas of the chores that need to be done in order to keep your household operating smoothly.

 

By following these suggested strategies, you will hopefully find it easier to get your partner to help – because HEY, YOU DESERVE THE HELP.

There is no reason why a man can’t contribute time and effort to keeping the household running smoothly too.

With everyone pulling their weight, the household will honestly run smoothly and everyone – most especially you – will be so much happier (and less resentful!).

 

 

 

 

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