Overcoming The Obstacles – 2 Strategies You Need To Know
Want to know the secret to overcoming the obstacles? Here are 2 strategies you need to embrace starting today.
Let’s talk about overcoming the obstacles that we all face in our lives.
I know it would be nice if we could be presented with a magic wand to make them disappear, right? Wouldn’t that be lovely?
But in case you are still looking for that magic wand, I have two tips for you that might help you knock down those barriers and overcome the obstacles that you’re facing in the meantime.
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1 – Become Self-Aware:
Becoming self-aware simply means that you can observe yourself from a non-judgmental perspective.
When you’re self-aware, you can catch yourself in the present moment experiencing a specific state, reaction, or feeling.
What this means is when you face an obstacle, I want you to ask yourself what are you making it mean?
What are the exact thoughts you’re thinking about this obstacle?
How are those thoughts MAKING YOU FEEL?
And how do you act when you’re feeling that way?
The more you are aware of your thoughts and emotions, the more you start to understand yourself.
The reason I mention this to you is because your thoughts will ultimately impact your results in life.
So in order to change your results, you need to begin to pinpoint the exact thoughts that are coming to your mind.
For example, you might observe that you tend to be reactive when someone provides you with a suggestion on how to do something different.
Why is that the case?
What did you think about that person or the suggestion?
Did you think they were being rude or unhelpful?
Did you take it as a personal attack?
Get specific about the exact thoughts that came to your mind that made you feel reactive.
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Once again, this will require you to STOP in those moments and THINK. Ask yourself: what thoughts are running through your mind right now and how are those thoughts making you feel?
When you become aware of your emotions, you have a better idea of who you are and how you tend to react in certain situations.
It is also the best way to improve yourself on certain aspects that you don’t love about yourself.
But you can’t change anything that you aren’t aware of.
Not only will self-awareness help you remove the barriers in your life, but it will also help you with the following:
- Experience a greater ability to recognize your emotions
- Improve your critical thinking
- Improve your relationships
- Live in the present moment
- Experience more joy and happiness
Self-awareness is the key to live a life without barriers.
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2 – Build your self-esteem:
Many people hear the term self-esteem but actually have no idea what it really means so let me define it for you.
Self-esteem is the way we perceive or evaluate our worth and is the ultimate belief we place on ourselves.
People with high self-esteem tend not to see problems as a barrier but an opportunity for growth.
On the other hand, people with low self-esteem will often stop themselves from doing something because they feel they are not capable of.
You can increase your self-esteem by appreciating yourself and recognizing your strengths.
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Make it your goal to become your best friend.
Make it your goal to also see yourself as strong and resilient.
How would this change the way you approach obstacles?
This will require that you take some time to hang out with yourself once in a while and begin to feel comfortable owning every single part of you – both the parts you love and don’t love so much.
It’s okay for you to feel all the feelings (that’s just a totally normal part of being a human being) but YOU ultimately get to decide how you show up in each moment in life.
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You will also need to begin to speak to yourself with kindness and love rather than allowing your inner critic to run the show.
Do your best to add some self-care during those moments.
Compassion toward ourselves and self-love will often lead to better self-esteem and higher self-confidence.
So, what can you do today to be kinder to yourself?
To forgive yourself?
To have your own back?
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When you do both these things:
1 – Choose to focus on self-awareness (especially pinpointing the exact thoughts you are thinking about the obstacles you face) and
2 – Decide to take actions to increase your self-esteem (so speaking to yourself with more positivity and strength when you face each obstacle), you will find that the barriers you face in life will no longer stand in your way.
I wish you the best of luck when it comes to these moments. Once again, you can’t wish them away (they are a part of life remember!) but you do get to decide how you show up in these moments.
Much love, Frances Vidakovic xxx
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I’m Frances Vidakovic – a mindset & action coach for quietly ambitious women who want to stop overthinking and finally take aligned action. I help women achieve their goals and follow through on what matters, without sacrificing their sanity or soul.