Putting Yourself First – Why It’s So Important (And Not Selfish To Do!)


Feel like putting yourself first is selfish? Then you need to read this – why putting yourself first is the most important work you can do.



Hey my friend,

Let’s chat about putting yourself first.

Does the idea of doing that make you feel a little selfish?

Does it feel like something only indulgent, vain people do?

If so, I want to dispel the myth here that putting yourself first is a terrible thing.

In fact, I want to show you why it is the most important work we can do in our life.


I know what it’s like myself. In the hustle and bustle of our fast-paced lives, it’s easy to get caught up in the demands of work, family, and social obligations.

And then what happens? You often neglect the most important person in the equation – yourself.

In a society that glorifies busyness and selflessness, the concept of putting oneself first might seem counterintuitive or even selfish.

However, prioritizing your well-being is not only essential for personal growth but also crucial for maintaining a healthy and balanced life. Allow me to explain to you why this is true…







1 – Mental Health Matters:


One of the key reasons to put yourself first is the impact it has on your mental health.

Constantly putting others’ needs before your own can lead to burnout, stress, and even mental health issues. Have you ever felt the same way?

Have you ever found yourself consistently coming last on your list but rather than feeling good about that, it made you feel CRAP.

Conversely, taking time for self-reflection, relaxation, and activities that bring joy can significantly contribute to mental well-being. By prioritizing self-care, you are better equipped to handle life’s challenges and maintain a positive mindset. By doing so, you show up BETTER for the other important people in your life.



2 – Physical Well-Being:


Your physical health is closely intertwined with your overall well-being.

Therefore when you consistently neglect your physical health can result in fatigue, decreased immunity, and chronic illnesses.

It makes sense then that you do what you can not to suffer physically in life.

Prioritizing self-care involves adopting a healthy lifestyle, including regular exercise, a balanced diet, and sufficient sleep. When you do these things – when you invest in your physical well-being, you not only enhance your energy levels but also reduce the risk of long-term health issues.



3 – Improved Relationships:


Contrary to the misconception that putting yourself first is selfish, it can actually improve your relationships with others.

Let me repeat that for you one more time. It can actually dramatically improve your relationships with others.

How is that possible, you may be wondering?

Well when you take care of your own needs, you approach relationships with a healthier mindset.

You become more present, understanding, and capable of providing support to those around you.

Setting boundaries and communicating your needs fosters mutual respect and creates stronger, more fulfilling connections. These are things you WANT to bring forth to any healthy, loving relationship you may be involved in.






4 – Personal Growth:


Here’s another point to consider – putting yourself first is an essential component of personal growth. This involves you taking the time to acknowledge your goals, passions, and aspirations and dedicating time and effort towards achieving them.

I promise you, nothing good will come from you staying stuck and stagnant.

By investing in your personal development, you not only enhance your skills and knowledge but also gain a sense of fulfillment and purpose in life.

This is WIN-WIN for you and everyone else in your life.



5 – Setting Boundaries:


Finally, let’s chat about the importance of setting boundaries.

One of the key aspects of putting yourself first is learning to set boundaries.

This is super important for you to learn how to do! Saying ‘no’ when necessary and establishing limits on your time and energy are crucial for maintaining a healthy balance in your life.

Even if it makes you feel icky to do in the beginning, setting boundaries will empower you to focus on what truly matters to you and prevents feelings of overwhelm and resentment.





In a world that often emphasizes self-sacrifice and constant productivity, please don’t be afraid to recognize the significance of putting yourself first.

Prioritizing your mental and physical well-being, nurturing relationships, fostering personal growth, and setting boundaries is a MUST because they are all essential components of self-care and self-growth in life.

By making yourself a priority, you are NOT being selfish. Instead you are not only enhancing your own life but also contribute positively to the lives of those around you.

Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish – it’s a fundamental step towards a more balanced and fulfilling life. So don’t feel bad about doing so!


I wish you the best of luck, Frances xxx





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