Unhealthy Relationships Quiz – 5 Behaviors That Kill A Relationship
Want to take a quick unhealthy relationships quiz? See if you have these 5 behaviors that will quickly kill your relationship.
Let’s take a quick unhealthy relationships quiz.
For many of us, having nurturing, healthy relationships with our partners contributes to our feelings of happiness and emotional well-being which is why it’s so important to make sure they stay strong.
But here’s the thing: relationships are challenging.
This is not something that we are often taught in school, and many of us have few, if any, good role models to emulate (other than Mike and Carol Brady from The Brady Bunch and we all know how that turned out in real life).
Understanding the most common behaviors that damage relationships can be a good first step to having a relationship that lasts.
In this post you can take a quick quiz and see if you are partaking in 5 common behaviors that can really harm your relationship.
See how many of these behaviors seem familiar to you, either in yourself or your partner.
Without further ado, here’s a quick unhealthy relationships quiz to take and 5 behaviors that can doom a relationship to failure:
Unhealthy Relationships Quiz – 5 Behaviors That Kill A Relationship
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# 1 – Fear of intimacy.
Maybe you want someone in your life, but you don’t want them getting too close.
Intimacy is defined as a mutual vulnerability, openness and willing to share.
Most people automatically equate intimacy with sex but people can be sexual without being intimate and intimate without being sexual (if that makes sense).
This is a common fear, particularly among men, but women also struggle with this relationship challenge.
Only problem is that eventually your partner will become frustrated with the contrast between your need for love and your expectation of failure.
Unhealthy Relationships Quiz – 5 Behaviors That Kill A Relationship
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# 2 – Poor communication habits.
When it comes too poor communication habits this can include everything from not mentioning the little things that get on your nerves to just not communicating in a meaningful way on a daily basis.
Only problem is relationships cannot grow without the proper amount of communication.
Without communication, there is no real, deep relationship that is binding you together.
The quality of the communication is what ultimately determines how close you stay over the long run.
- Avoid fighting via text message. This is especially common with couples that are frequently separated by distance. This is a dangerous practice. We’re all a little bolder than we would normally be while texting. It’s also easy to misinterpret when you can’t hear or see the other person.
- Expecting the other person to figure out what’s bothering you. This is a common challenge. No matter how much the other person loves you, they can’t read your mind. Take responsibility for your happiness and need-fulfillment and let your partner know what you need. Be honest and say what needs to be said rather than expecting them to be a mind-reader.
- Many of us like to give the silent treatment when we feel annoyed or wronged. This accomplishes nothing other than escalating the situation. Your partner becomes resentful and less interested in resolving the issue.
- All in all, communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life. Without it, it dies. You need to remember this – that assumption and a lack of communication are the number one relationship killers.
Unhealthy Relationships Quiz – 5 Behaviors That Kill A Relationship
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# 3 – Insecurity.
Ah insecurity it really does suck.
You may think confidence is loud and insecurities are silent but really it’s the other way around.
Insecurity is another relationship killer that needs addressing because it has the potential to kill your relationship.
When you are insecure, you drive both yourself and your partner crazy.
This lack of confidence in yourself becomes particularly unattractive when it leads to a mistrust of your partner.
Don’t be surprised if your partner eventually feels begins to feel insulted when accused of things that simply didn’t occur.
Unhealthy Relationships Quiz – 5 Behaviors That Kill A Relationship
Insecurity can manifest itself in many ways:
- Are you frequently jealous? This can include your partner’s close friends and previous relationships.
- Do you analyze everything your partner says and does for some sign that they’re losing interest?
- Do you need constant reassurance that everything is okay?
- Do you spend more time worried about the stability of your relationship than you do enjoying it?
- If you have a lot of insecurity in your relationships, consider addressing your levels of self-confidence and self-esteem.
- In the end it all begins and ends in your mind. What you give power to has power over you, if you allow it.
- Your mind will always believe everything you tell it. Feed it with faith instead. Feed it with love. Feed it with confidence in yourself and your partner.
Unhealthy Relationships Quiz – 5 Behaviors That Kill A Relationship
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# 4 – A need for control.
Do you feel the need to control every aspect of your relationship?
No one likes to be dominated day in and day out.
Ask yourself why you feel the need to control everything about your relationship and your partner.
Micromanaging doesn’t work in the workplace, and guess what? I
It doesn’t usually work at home either, especially in your relationships.
- This is commonly camouflaged as caretaking taken to the extreme. But caring for the other person isn’t the real purpose. The real purpose is control.
- FYI: People who feel the need to control others don’t have control over themselves.
- Remember you can’t control other people or events. You can only control your reactions to them and what you choose to think about.
“Control” is an element of weakness and insecurity. You truly cannot control anyone or anything other than your effort and attitude. Sylvester McNutt
You can’t control people. You must understand them. You have to know where they’re coming from, their beliefs and values, what turns them off, what they’re against. Hayden Fry
Unhealthy Relationships Quiz – 5 Behaviors That Kill A Relationship
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# 5 – Assuming the role of the martyr.
“Nice guys” and many women often assume this role.
They mistakenly believe that if they sacrifice enough in the name of their partner’s happiness, they’ll eventually get what they need in the end.
The weird thing is people who play the martyr think they are doing something sweet or amazing but in reality they are often playing the victim, seeking out or accepting suffering because it fulfills some psychological need or really avoiding responsibility.
It’s like a “get out of jail free card” where playing the martyr means they don’t have to stand up for their rights, set boundaries or make requests that would ultimately make the relationship stronger.
Over time, this also leads to a level of resentment that can never be satisfied.
Look at your past relationships and ask yourself: how many of these behaviors were present in yourself or the other person?
Do you see any of them in yourself now?
By doing your best to avoid these common behaviors or look at healthy ways you can minimize their negative impact, you will give your relationships a much better chance of surviving and thriving.
Take a hard look at yourself and make the necessary adjustments.
Great relationships make life an exciting and rewarding experience.
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