Why Life Is So Hard – 10 Ways You Make Life Even Harder
Ever wonder why life is so hard? Here are 10 ways you are potentially making life much harder than it needs to be.
Let’s chat about why life is so hard at times.
So let me ask you a question right now?
On a scale of one to ten, how hard would you say your life is right now? Now I want to know: what made you give that answer?
The truth is: life itself is quite simple but people sometimes insist on making it more complicated than it needs to be.
Let me repeat that for you: life is not complicated, people are.
A lot of the way you experience life depends on the attitude you have.
You can either live life in a way that makes it easier for you.
Or you can live life in a way that makes it much more challenging than it needs to be.
Some people are highly skilled at making life more difficult than it needs to be.
You may recognize a few people like this – they are always whinging, always complaining, always annoyed because LIFE IS SO HARD.
Hopefully you don’t fall into that extreme group but even if you’re making your way through the universe with a minimal amount of grief, it’s likely you could be doing even better.
Consider these 10 tips to avoid making life more challenging than necessary:
WHY LIFE IS SO HARD
1 – Do you lack goals?
Without goals, you can’t ration your time effectively.
People without goals have a tendency to find ways of amusing themselves that do little to enhance their lives.
Spending your time poorly makes your life harder.
It creates a situation where you’re putting out fires rather than making progress.
SOLUTION TO THIS:
Set some goals that set your heart on fire and that are meaningful to you.
WHY LIFE IS SO HARD
2 – Do you waste time?
People with easy lives use a good portion of their day to accomplish things that matter.
The more time you waste each day, the more chaotic your life becomes over time.
Using your time well can help you avoid a lot of challenges.
Did you know if you waste just 15 minutes a day on something, over the course of a year that equals 91.25 hours or almost 4 FULL DAYS?
This means if you waste one full hour a day every day on a meaningless activity it equates to over 15 FULL DAYS OF WASTED TIME!
That’s half a month of your year wasted.
2 hours of social media scrolling a day would equal a FULL MONTH of your eyes glued to your phone each year.
SOLUTION TO THIS:
Identify the time-wasting activities of your day and do your best to eliminate them.
WHY LIFE IS SO HARD
3 – Do you procrastinate?
This is just another way of wasting time.
When you procrastinate, you either fail to get things done, or you do a poor job because you’re too rushed.
How much drama have you created in your life by procrastinating?
Why do you keep putting off what need to be done?
SOLUTION TO THIS:
Simply stop delaying the activity and do what needs to be done.
WHY LIFE IS SO HARD
4 – Do you think too much and do too little?
Many people spend too much time thinking and gathering information.
Only problem is: nothing happens until you actually do something.
If you’re spending too much time thinking each day, your life isn’t as easy as it could be.
SOLUTION TO THIS:
Have faith in yourself.
Trust the universe.
Make a decision and stick with it.
Overthinking will not make things any better.
WHY LIFE IS SO HARD
5 – Do you fail to learn from your mistakes?
You need to know that admitting to yourself that you made a mistake and identifying where you went wrong is the first step of growing and healing.
There’s no reason to make the same mistake twice.
If you learn from every mistake you made, you would be constantly growing.
That’s because mistakes have the power to turn you into something better than you were before.
SOLUTION TO THIS:
Look for the gem inside every mistake you make.
There is always, always a lesson to be learned.
WHY LIFE IS SO HARD
6 – Do you worry about things that you have no control over?
What do you worry about in an average day?
What does it accomplish?
What if you spent that time on something more relevant?
How would that impact your life?
Worrying is really a waste of time.
It doesn’t take away any of tomorrow’s troubles; it just robs you of today’s peace.
Note to self: everything is going to be okay.
Good and bad things will happen in life.
You just have to keep living and not stressing over things you cannot control.
SOLUTION TO THIS:
Ditch worry. Know that it is possible to choose peace over worry.
There isn’t enough room in your mind for both worry and faith so choose wisely.
Worrying is using your imagination to create something you don’t want. Abraham Hicks
A day of worry is more exhausting than a week of work. John Lubbock
WHY LIFE IS SO HARD
7 – Do you fail to build good habits?
You already have some good habits, like brushing your teeth.
But do you have any negative ones that are holding you back?
When you establish positive, meaningful habits, your life will be much easier.
Negative or ineffective habits lead to big challenges.
What new positive habits do you want to incorporate into your life?
What negative habits do you need to let go of?
A change in bad habits will lead to a change in your life.
Remember bad habits are easy to develop and hard to live with.
Good habits are hard to develop and easy to live with.
SOLUTION TO THIS:
It’s still possible to build additional good habits.
Start by identifying a new habit you wish to incorporate into your life and do it every day.
What we do every day matters more than what we do once in a while.
You leave old habits behind by starting out with the thought, “I release the need for this in my life. Wayne Dyer
Good habits, once established, are just as hard to break as are bad habits. Robert Puller
WHY LIFE IS SO HARD
8 – Do you fail to plan how you spend your time?
Avoid waking up each day without a clue of how to get the most out of your day.
Make a plan the night before and do your best to complete it each day.
Imagine what your life would be like if you could do this on a regular basis!
SOLUTION TO THIS:
Pull out your diary the night before and decide how you want to spend the following day in advance.
Failing to plan is planning to fail. Alan Lakein
Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now. Alan Lakein
WHY LIFE IS SO HARD
9 – Do you spend time with negative people or those that struggle themselves? The people that you spend time with influence your life.
Life is really short so you need to spend it with family and friends who make you feel loved and actually love you.
You need to simplify your life by clearing our toxic friends and habits that only serve your bring you down.
Your life will improve exponentially when you improve the quality of people in your life.
That’s because spending time with those that struggle will cause you to struggle as well.
SOLUTION TO THIS:
Here are 8 Toxic or negative people you should consider spending less time with:
1 – Those who spread negativity
2 – Those who criticize you all the time
3 – Those who are jealous and petty.
4 – Those who play the victim.
5 – Those who are self-centered and selfish
6 – Those who don’t sincerely care.
7 – Those who keep disappointing you.
8 – Those who waste your time.
WHY LIFE IS SO HARD
10 – Do you compare yourself to others?
Comparing yourself to others is a sure way of losing confidence in yourself.
And there’s no purpose to it.
You are unique.
You are beautiful.
You are worthy.
You have a special gift to offer this world and comparing yourself to others doesn’t take any of these truths away.
So let go of those comparisons and simply strive to be better than you were yesterday.
It won’t take long before your life is amazing.
You gain nothing at all from comparing yourself to others.
SOLUTION TO THIS:
If you have to compare yourself to someone, compare yourself to the person you were yesterday. Aim to be better.
In the end, there are many aspects to life that are beyond your control and challenges are a part of life.
However, this doesn’t mean that you need to make life harder than it has to be.
Do not complicate life if you don’t need to!
You can avoid this trap by going over the 10 tips in this post and actually implementing the suggestions (don’t just think about implementing them).
This is the way to make life easier for yourself.
Take action and discover that life can indeed be simpler than many people make out to be.
This doesn’t mean your challenges will totally go away…it just means you will in a stronger position to face every obstacle that comes your way.
Life is hard and it isn’t fair and it really hurts like hell sometimes, but if you focus on what is within your power to change for the better, you can and you will. Zero Dean
An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward. When life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means it’s going to launch you into something great. So just focus, and keep aiming.
To be tested is good. The challenged life may be the best therapist. Gail Sheehy
If you’re going through hell, keep going. Winston Churchill
Until next time, dream big my friend,
Frances xx
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I’m Frances Vidakovic – a mindset & action coach for quietly ambitious women who want to stop overthinking and finally take aligned action. I help women achieve their goals and follow through on what matters, without sacrificing their sanity or soul.