200 Questions To Ask Your Partner – This is EYE-OPENING!
Looking for questions to ask your partner or spouse? These 200 questions are eye-opening and will change your relationship!.
Hey my friend,
Are you looking for questions to ask your partner?
Now I know that there’s a good chance you already think you know everything you need to know about your partner.
But what if you could dig even deeper?
What if by asking the right questions, you could discover even more amazing things about your partner?
Trust me, many people live with their loved ones for years without ever digging deep.
BUT FIRST…
The 36 Questions That Lead to Love:
In a famous psychological study by Arthur Aron, a set of 36 questions were designed to foster deep interpersonal connections. The questions gradually escalate in intimacy, leading participants to share increasingly personal information. The study demonstrated that these questions could accelerate the development of closeness and even lead to love.
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Want to know what those 36 questions are? Here they are:
Set 1
- Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
- Would you like to be famous? In what way?
- Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
- What could constitute a “perfect” day for you?
- When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
- If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
- Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
- Name three things you and your partner (the person you are dating) appear to have in common?
- For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
- If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
- Take 4 minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
- If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
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Set 2
- If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else what would you want to know?
- Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
- What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
- What do you value most in a friendship?
- What is your most treasured memory?
- What is your most terrible memory?
- If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
- What does friendship mean to you?
- What roles do love and affection play in your life?
- Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner (the person you are dating). Share a total of 5 items.
- How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
- How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
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Set 3
- Make 3 true ‘we’ statements each. For instance “We are both in this room feeling…”
- Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”
- If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
- Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
- Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
- When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
- Tell your partner something that you love about them already?
- What if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
- If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? What haven’t you told them yet?
- Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
- Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
- Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, as your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
JUST HOW WELL DO YOU KNOW YOUR PARTNER?
I think it’s presumptuous to assume because you are married to someone you know EVERYTHING about them.
Sure, couples take a crash course in Partner’s Basic Personality 101 when they begin to live together.
But one would be foolish to presume what this constitutes their whole life history.
Want to get to know your partner on an even deeper level? Here are 200 questions to ask your partner…
QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR PARTNER OR SPOUSE
Here’s an important tip from me:
Please don’t assume you know everything about your partner.
I say this to you in the kindest and most loving way.
Only cocky people assume they know everything.
Trust me; you don’t know everything there is to know about someone and just the same: nobody will ever know EVERYTHING about you.
Socrates said it best when he said:
All I know is that I know nothing.
Remember humans are complex, multi-faceted creatures who sometimes behave differently according to the company they keep.
Different situations also draw out different qualities in some people.
I’m sure you are the same.
For the most part we ALL are much deeper personalities than initially observed.
We ALL have an inner world that is as rich and influential as our outer world.
That being said, this is why I think it’s soooooo important that you take the time to ask your spouse or partner new questions every day.
This will keep your relationship fresh and like new, because you’re always learning more and growing together.
So without further ado, below is a list of 200 questions which you are welcome to share with your partner.
These relationship questions are here to make both you and your partner think.
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Use them at your own discretion and be prepared for a few surprises. I know I experienced some…
1 – What was your first impression of me?
2 – What’s your idea of a truly romantic evening?
3 – If you could change three things about me what would they be?
4 – If you could change three things about yourself what would they be?
5 – What is your dream profession?
6 – What is your dream place to visit?
7 – Who is your dream celebrity to meet?
8 – What are your three favorite body parts on me and why?
9 – What is your favorite movie of all time?
10 – Who is your favorite actor?
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11 – Who is your favorite actress?
12 – What is your favorite fruit and favorite vegetable?
13 – Tell me who is your favorite aunt and uncle and why?
14 – Tell me who is your favorite cousin and why?
15 – What is the first memory you have?
16 – What is your earliest happy memory?
17 – What is your earliest scary memory?
18 – Who was your first crush and what was appealing about him or her?
19 – Who was your first date and where did you go?
20 – How have you coped with break-ups in the past?
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21 – Have you ever had a recurring dream? If so describe it to me.
22 – Do you have any nightmares? If so what happens in them?
23 – Do you remember any dreams you had as a kid?
24 – What was your favorite TV show as a kid?
25 – Who was your favorite singer as a kid?
26 – What is the best decision you ever made?
27 – What is your biggest regret?
28 – What do you think makes a successful person successful?
29 – If you won the lotto what are the first three things you would buy?
30 – If you won the lotto would you continue working?
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31 – If your house was on fire and you could only take five things before leaving what would they be?
32 – Tell me about your proudest moment.
33 – Tell me about your most embarrassing moment.
34 – Have I ever embarrassed you?
35 – Who is your best friend and why?
36 – Who is your worst friend and why?
37 – Do you believe in ghosts?
38 – Do you believe in heaven? Or in hell?
39 – Do you believe in afterlife?
40 – What is your favorite sweet food?
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41 – What is your favorite savory food?
42 – What is your favorite flavor of ice cream?
43 – How do you know when I am happy?
44 – How do you know when I am angry?
45 – If you could steal the wardrobe of any celebrity who would it be?
46 – Can you remember your parents having any fights? If so what were they about?
47 – Who are you closer to – your mom or your dad? Why?
48 – Describe your parent’s marriage to me. What were the best parts and the worst bits about it?
49 – What is your favorite sexual fantasy?
50 – What is your all time favorite song?
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51 – What is your all time favorite book?
52 – If a genie granted you three magic wishes, what would they be?
53 – What upsets you most in our relationship?
54 – What makes you feel happiest in our relationship?
55 – How do think people perceive you? Do you think this perception is accurate?
56 – Can you think of anything you wished for as a kid but were denied? What was it?
57 – Do you have any needs that are not being met in your life? What can I do to meet those needs?
58 – What is the most important thing money can do for you?
59 – Who had control of the money when you were growing up?
60 – Who do you feel responsible for in life?
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61 – When did you have your first kiss?
62 – When did you lose your virginity?
63 – How often do you think it’s normal to have sex?
64 – Who taught you about the “birds and the bees? How old were you then?
65 – How do you define love?
66 – Have you ever questioned the existence of love?
67 – When you talk about me to others what do you say?
68 – When a conflict arises how do you react?
69 – Does your family have any secrets it refuses to talk about?
70 – What are you most ashamed of and why?
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71 – If you had one day left to live what would you do?
72 – If you died today what would you want your final arrangements to be?
73 – Do you feel you had enough education?
74 – If you could go back to university what would you study?
75 – If you found someone’s wallet what would you do with it?
76 – If you found $1000 in an envelope what would you do with it?
77 – If you gave money to charities which ones would you choose and why?
78 – If you were in trouble who would you go to for advice?
79 – What is the biggest obstacle you have faced in life? How did you overcome it?
80 – If you could go back in time what period in history would you like to visit?
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81 – If you could go back in time what period of your own life would you like to revisit?
82 – Who was the first important person who died in your life and how did you feel?
83 – What animals do you like?
84 – What animals don’t you like?
85 – What is your favorite age to be and why?
86 – If you could ask me one question what would it be?
87 – Do you think men love differently than women?
88 – When did you first realize you loved me?
89 – What is the most important thing in your life and why?
90 – How would you describe your moral values?
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91 – How do you think you teach children moral values?
92 – Did you have any pets whilst growing up and if so, which was your favorite?
93 – Is it ever acceptable to keep a secret and why?
94 – What is the thing you fear the most?
95 – What did you think the first time you met my mother and father?
96 – What is most important in a marriage to you?
97 – Have you ever stolen anything? If so, what was it?
98 – Who do you believe is the dominant one in our relationship and why?
99 – Do you masturbate and if so how often?
100 – What is your favorite color?
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101 – What is your favorite drink?
102 – What was your favorite subject back at school?
103 – Where do you see yourself in five years?
104 – Where do you see yourself in ten years?
105 – Who is the person who has influenced your life the most?
106 – What kinds of movies do you enjoy and why?
107 – What kinds of sports do you enjoy and why?
108 – What is the best gift you have ever gotten?
109 – What is the craziest gift you have ever gotten?
110 – If you had to describe yourself in three words what would they be?
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111 – If you had to describe me in three words what would they be?
112 – If you could go back into time, what would you change?
113 – Do you have any bad habits?
114 – Are you a positive or negative person?
115 – What makes you feel sad?
116 – How do you feel about porn?
117 – How much sleep do you need?
118 – What are your strengths?
119 – What are your weaknesses?
120 – How do you think love should be shown?
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121 – Name one thing I do that makes you feel loved.
122 – Name one thing I do that makes you feel unloved.
123 – What do you enjoy doing with me?
124 – How much time do you think couples should spend together?
125 – What makes you feel secure in life?
126 – What makes you feel insecure in life?
127 – What have been your biggest struggles in life?
128 – What can I do to help you with these struggles?
129 – When was the last time you yelled at someone? Why? Did you later regret it?
130 – What do you seek in a friend that you neither expect nor want in a lover?
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131 – When you tell a story, do you often exaggerate or embellish it? If so, why?
132 – How much do you feel you are in control of your life?
133 – If you were diagnosed with a terminal illness what sort of insights do you think you would have about your life?
134 – Would you like to be famous? For what and why?
135 – Would you rather play a game with someone more talented or less talented than you? Why?
136 – How would you like to be remembered after you die?
137 – What would you like said at your funeral? Whom would you like to speak?
138 – Is there something you still wish to achieve in your life? Why haven’t you done it?
139 – Do you have any compulsive habits? Have you ever tried to break them?
140 – What did you learn as a child that has proven to be most valuable in your life?
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141 – Would you defend a person if they were being unfairly belittled by other people?
142 – If you could take a one-month holiday to anywhere in the world and money was not a consideration where would you go and what would you do? Who would you most like to go with?
143 – Have you ever considered suicide? What is so important to you that without it your life would not be worth living?
144 – If you had the option to find out what friends and acquaintances REALLY think of you, would you want to know? Do you think they would all agree with one another about the type of person you are?
145 – How much energy do you spend doing things to favorably impress other people? If you were unconcerned about what other people think, what sort of things might you do differently?
146 – If you could wake up tomorrow in the body of someone else, would you do so? Whom would you pick?
147 – Do you believe in any sort of God? If not do you think you might still pray if you were in a life-threatening situation?
148 – Who is the most important person in your life? What could you do to improve the relationship? Are you willing to do it?
149 – If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
150 – In what ways will you treat your children differently from the way you were treated?
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151 – Do you believe in aliens? Or life in outer space?
152 – Do you find it easy or difficult to say no to favors? If so why?
153 – Would you be willing to go swimming at a nude beach?
154 – How much do you like your own body?
155 – What if anything is too serious to be joked about?
156 – What do you value most in a relationship?
157 – If your friend has a noticeable self-destructive behavior but is unaware of it would you point it out to them?
158 – If there was a public execution on TV, would you watch it?
159 – If you wanted to look attractive, how would you dress?
160 – What constitutes a perfect evening to you?
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161 – Whom do you admire most? How does that person inspire you?
162 – Would you be willing to murder an innocent person if it meant ending hunger in the world?
163 – What things are too personal to discuss with others?
164 – Would you prefer to be blind, deaf, dumb or paralyzed?
165 – Which of your current friends do you feel will still be important to you ten years from now?
166 – For $1,000,000 would you be willing to never see or talk to your best friend again?
167 – What do you like best about your life?
168 – What do you like least about your life?
169 – If you decided to do something but everyone begged you not to, would you still do it anything?
170 – Can you be counted on to do what you say you will do?
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171 – What does it take for you to trust someone?
172 – What would you never be willing to sacrifice?
173 – If you could project yourself into the future and not return, would you do so? How far would you go?
174 – How much influence do you feel you have on the people around you?
175 – Can you think of someone you met who, over a short period of time, significantly influenced your life?
176 – Would you prefer to be overdressed or underdressed at a party?
177 – What has being your biggest disappointment in life?
178 – What has being your biggest failure?
179 – What kinds of things do you usually talk about with other people?
180 – Relative to the population at large, how do you rate your physical attractiveness? Your intelligence? Your personality?
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181 – Have you ever experimented with drugs?
182 – If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about any one thing you wish to know (about your future, life or anything else) what would you ask?
183 – If you were guaranteed honest answers to any three questions, who would you question and what would you ask?
184 – What is the most embarrassing thing you can imagine happening to someone?
185 – Would you care if you looked silly in front of strangers?
186 – You discover your beautiful child is in fact not yours, due to a mix-up at the hospital. Would you want to exchange the child to correct the mistake?
187 – Do you think the world will be a better or worse place in 100 years from now?
188 – If you could invite any six guests, alive or deceased, to a dinner party who would they be?
189 – If you could choose how to die, how would it happen?
190 – What would make you feel betrayed by your partner?
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191 – Do you feel you have enough time? How has your attitude towards time changed as you have gotten older?
192 – What kind of people do you like to spend time with? What can people learn by looking at your friends?
193 – Would you accept $1,000,000 to leave the country and never set foot in it again?
194 – When was the last time you cried? What was the reason why?
195 – Would you seek revenge if someone hurt a friend of yours? How about a family member or your child?
196 – How do your feelings about death influence the way you live your life?
197 – If you saw someone stealing something, what would you do about it?
198 -If you saw someone hurting a child, what would you do about it?
199 -Would you in general stop to help someone in need?
200 -In conversations do you tend to talk more or listen?
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IN A NUTSHELL
As relationships evolve and unfold, the art of asking meaningful questions remains a powerful tool for cultivating intimacy and understanding. From exploring personal philosophies to envisioning shared dreams, these questions invite you on a continuous journey of discovery and strengthening bonds.
Communication really lies at the heart of any successful relationship, and asking thoughtful questions can be a powerful tool to strengthen your bond with your partner.
Whether you’re in the early stages of a relationship or have been together for years, exploring each other’s thoughts, feelings, and dreams fosters intimacy and understanding. If you only want to ask your partner just 30 questions, you can start with these to ignite meaningful conversations and deepen your connection.
1 – What are Your Deepest Passions and Dreams?
Uncover the aspirations that fuel your partner’s soul. Asking about their passions and dreams not only shows genuine interest but also allows you to understand what truly inspires and motivates them.
2 – How Do You Handle Stress, and How Can I Support You?
Life inevitably brings challenges, and understanding how your partner copes with stress opens the door for mutual support. By asking this question, you demonstrate a commitment to being a source of strength and understanding during tough times.
3 – What Does a Perfect Day Look Like for You?
Delve into your partner’s ideal day, exploring the activities, As relationships evolve and unfold, the art of asking meaningful questions remains a powerful tool for cultivating intimacy and understanding. This question unveils their preferences and allows you to envision shared experiences that align with their desires.
4 – What Are Your Core Values, and How Do They Shape Your Life?
Understanding each other’s core values lays the foundation for a harmonious relationship. Discussing the principles that guide your partner’s decisions and actions fosters alignment and mutual respect.
5 – Is There a Personal Achievement You’re Particularly Proud Of?
Celebrate your partner’s victories, big or small, by asking about achievements they hold dear. This question provides insight into their values, resilience, and the milestones that have shaped their journey.
6 – How Do You Envision Our Future Together?
Explore your partner’s vision for the future, both as individuals and as a couple. Discussing shared goals, aspirations, and potential challenges allows you to align your trajectories and build a collaborative path forward.
7 – What Are Your Favorite Ways to Show and Receive Love?
Love languages vary, and understanding how your partner expresses and receives love is crucial. By discussing your preferred ways of demonstrating affection, you can enhance the emotional connection in your relationship.
8 – If You Could Travel Anywhere, Where Would You Go and Why?
Dive into the realm of wanderlust by exploring your partner’s dream destinations. This question invites discussions about shared travel goals, cultural interests, and the potential for creating lasting memories together.
9 – What Are Your Short-Term and Long-Term Career Goals?
Career aspirations play a significant role in shaping one’s life. By discussing your partner’s professional ambitions, you gain insight into their priorities, work ethic, and how you can support their journey.
10 – How Can We Improve Communication and Understanding Between Us?
Open communication is the bedrock of a healthy relationship. Reflecting on how you both can enhance communication ensures that your connection remains strong and resilient.
11 – What is Your Earliest Childhood Memory, and How Does it Shape You Today?
Dive into the nostalgic waters of childhood with this question. Exploring early memories offers a glimpse into your partner’s formative experiences and the threads that weave their present identity.
12 – If You Could Have Dinner with Any Historical Figure, Who Would it Be and Why?
Unleash your partner’s imagination by inviting them to share a hypothetical dinner with a historical figure. This question sparks conversations about inspiration, admiration, and the aspects of history that resonate with them.
13 – What Does Unconditional Love Mean to You?
Delve into the depths of emotional connection by exploring your partner’s concept of unconditional love. Understanding their perspective fosters a nurturing environment where love can flourish and evolve.
14 – In Which Ways Can We Cultivate a Shared Sense of Adventure in Our Relationship?
Adventure takes many forms, from spontaneous road trips to exploring new hobbies together. Discussing ways to infuse excitement and discovery into your relationship can lead to creating lasting memories.
15 – How Do You Envision Overcoming Challenges as a Team?
Relationships inevitably face challenges, and envisioning how you and your partner can tackle them as a team strengthens your bond. This question fosters a sense of unity and mutual support.
16 – If You Could Master Any Skill Instantly, What Would it Be and Why?
Uncover your partner’s secret ambitions by exploring the skills they dream of mastering. This question sparks conversations about personal growth and the pursuit of lifelong learning.
17 – What Are Your Favorite Traditions or Rituals, and How Can We Incorporate Them Into Our Relationship?
Traditions and rituals contribute to a sense of continuity and connection. Discussing your partner’s favorites and considering how to integrate them into your relationship adds depth to your shared experiences.
18 – If Our Relationship Were a Book or Movie, What Genre Would it Be and Why?
Tap into your partner’s creativity by envisioning your relationship as a work of fiction. This question allows for playful exploration of themes, emotions, and the narrative that unfolds between you.
19 – How Can We Ensure Individual Growth Without Drifting Apart?
Balancing individual growth with a shared connection is crucial. Discussing strategies to support each other’s personal development ensures that your relationship evolves harmoniously.
20 – What Are Your Thoughts on Starting a Family, and How Would You Envision Parenthood?
Explore the topic of family planning by discussing your partner’s thoughts on starting a family. This question opens the door for conversations about parenting styles, values, and the shared vision of a family unit.
21 – What Role Does Gratitude Play in Your Life, and How Can We Cultivate It Together?
Delve into the significance of gratitude in your partner’s daily life. Discussing ways to foster gratitude as a couple can create a positive and appreciative atmosphere in your relationship.
22 – If You Could Relive One Day from Your Past, Which Day Would it Be and Why?
Unearth cherished memories with this question, allowing your partner to revisit a special moment in their life. This conversation not only offers insight into their past but also provides an opportunity to share nostalgic stories.
23 – How Would You Describe Our Relationship to Someone Who Has Never Met Us?
Step back and view your relationship from an external perspective. This question encourages you and your partner to articulate the essence of your connection and how it is perceived by others.
24 – What Are Your Top Three Values, and How Can We Align Them in Our Relationship?
Core values are the pillars that uphold a strong relationship. Discussing your partner’s top values and finding ways to align them fosters harmony and mutual understanding.
25 – If You Could Live Anywhere in the World for a Year, Where Would it Be and Why?
Ignite wanderlust with this question, exploring your partner’s dream destination. Whether it’s a bustling city or a serene beach, this conversation sparks dreams of adventure and shared experiences.
26 – How Do You Navigate Personal Time and Space in Our Relationship?
Balancing individuality and togetherness is a key aspect of any relationship. Discussing how you and your partner navigate personal time and space ensures that both autonomy and connection are valued.
27 – In What Ways Can We Incorporate More Play and Fun Into Our Daily Lives?
Playfulness is essential for a thriving relationship. This question encourages you and your partner to brainstorm ways to inject more joy and lightheartedness into your everyday routines.
28 – What Are Your Thoughts on Financial Planning and Our Shared Financial Goals?
Open and transparent communication about finances is crucial. Discussing your partner’s views on financial planning and setting shared goals helps create a solid foundation for your future together.
29 – If You Could Choose One Superpower, What Would it Be and How Would You Use It?
Unleash your partner’s imagination with this playful question. Whether it’s flying, time travel, or telepathy, this conversation sparks creative discussions and reveals a glimpse of your partner’s dreams.
30 – How Do You Envision Growing Old Together, and What Are Our Golden Years Like?
Gazing into the future can be a heartwarming exercise. Discussing how your partner envisions growing old together fosters a sense of commitment and shared dreams for a long and fulfilling journey.
Conclusion:
Asking the right questions is an art that deepens emotional intimacy and fortifies the foundation of your relationship. The journey of exploration and understanding is ongoing, and by engaging in these meaningful conversations, you nurture a connection that evolves and flourishes over time.
Embrace the opportunity to explore the depths of your partner’s thoughts and emotions, fostering a bond that grows stronger with each shared revelation.I genuinely hope you have enjoyed going through these fun relationship questions with your partner.
I encourage you to make the time to get to know your partner better every single day. Why? Because you may in fact discover that there are indeed many more reasons to love him or her than previously believed.
Wishing you much love,
Frances Vidakovic xx
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