Confused About Life – What To Do With The Rest Of Your Life
If you’re confused about life and what to do, here are some SPECIFIC tips to help you decide exactly how to work out what to do with the rest of your life.
Let’s chat about to do if you are confused about life and your future.
How confident do you feel like you are heading in the direction that you want to be heading?
There’s a reason why many of us get stuck in a place of confusion (besides just thinking confusing thoughts). And it’s when life throws these three things our way:
1- Unexpected life changes.
2- Anticipated big transitions.
3 – Mixed with long, sleepless nights.
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Do you know what these three things have in common?
It’s the ability to provoke one of the most haunting questions in the library of human introspectives:
“What on earth am I going to do with the rest of my life?”
And it’s a pretty deep question right?
What do you want to do?
With the rest of your life?
It sounds so ominous and heavy but the goal of this post is to take some of that heaviness away for you.
While I can’t answer this question for anyone other than myself, I can offer you some basic tips on how to ensure that your future turns out as bright as possible.
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Take Time To Create A Map
Let’s start with the basics.
Before you go on a trip, you need to decide WHERE YOU WANT TO GO.
The same is true for your life.
Where do you want to go?
Do you have a plan?
Do you care where you go or aren’t you fussed?
Too often, when we are faced with a major (or even not so major) life decision, we tend to either take the first decent choice that presents itself.
Or we allow our circumstances to choose for us by default.
We think OH ANYWHERE IS FINE.
I DON’T MIND.
We make decisions without thinking of the long-term impact.
Or alternative we put off making decisions altogether until the inexorable current of life sweeps us past the turning point.
As you can imagine, this is not the best way to get what you want out of life.
You are in control here.
I know it may not seem like that’s the truth but it is.
The options we are faced with in life can be so wildly divergent, or so deceptively similar, that it is difficult to know which turning to take.
But still YOU GET TO DECIDE!
So do you want to give your future some more thought now?
I mean, if you were to have some say on how it will go, what would you want to create?
To do this you need to create a road map.
Wouldn’t it be great if we had some kind of road map that would help us know which paths to follow and which to pass by?
Below are five questions that everybody should ask themselves before starting out on any new path.
The answers to these questions should then be used to guide decisions and to direct actions.
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When a choice comes up, simply compare the various options with your stated desires.
Next choose the option that takes you closer to (even if it’s just baby steps for now) your destination – your stated goals and desires.
To make this choice, ask yourself the following questions.
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QUESTION 1 – What does success mean to me?
Be very specific. “I want to be rich,” is not an answer.
What does “rich” mean, anyway?
Are you thinking of a set number? And if so, why?
Or is the term “rich” a substitute for certain freedoms and opportunities that you view as coming only with money – and by limiting them to being accessed only through money, are you missing out on other alternative pathways?
Some more specific alternatives to “I want to be rich,” depending on the individual, might be:
“I want to have enough net income to meet my current financial responsibilities without strain, plus have time and money left over for travel.”
Or “I want to be able to comfortably afford a jet-setting lifestyle in New York City.”
Or “I want to spend 4 days a week at home with my kids,” etc.
Try to come up with at least three answers to the question of what success really means to you personally, with each one reflecting a different facet of what you feel makes up a truly successful life.
Keep in mind though that things such as personal fulfillment, spiritual meaning and other essential needs and values cannot be solved, acquired or even influenced by money
One of the biggest obstacles to success is that most of us have never consciously explored what that means to us, aside from some vague and nebulous idea of fame, fortune or other worldly success.
What does this word SUCCESS even mean to you?
Knowing what success really means to you – what you hope or imagine this success would provide you with – and how you want those things to physically look like in your life – allows you to weigh your choices more accurately.
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QUESTION 2 – What are my non-negotiable needs?
When I say non-negotiable, I mean what can you not compromise on?
What are essential components to your future?
For me, it’s all about family.
There is no way I would live in a biggest mansion in the world, if it meant I had to live on the other side of the world from my family.
What’s non-negotiable to you?
List all the things that you envision as inescapable parameters of a successful and enjoyable life.
Some areas to consider include:
Family, travel, no debt, pleasant work environment.
Social status, contributions to society, spiritual involvement.
Public acclaim, love, excitement, comfort.
Consider any or all of these, and any others you can think of are legitimate needs that when not met create an environment of stress, want and disempowerment in your life.
Knowing what you are not willing to do without makes the relative values of different options clearer.
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QUESTION 3 – What are my non-negotiable boundaries?
List all the things that you absolutely do not want present in your life.
That is, if the idea of working in a standard hierarchical office environment makes you ill, put that down.
If you can’t stand the thought of living in a cold climate, add that to the list (FYI: it would be on mine!).
If being poked fun at about your physical condition or other attributes makes life unlivable, note that as well.
By knowing what you will not tolerate, many choices become much easier to make.
Plus, it allows you to set down rules and policies about who and what you will invite into your life and the standards of behavior you will, and will not, tolerate.
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QUESTION 4 – What are my key values?
I want you to spend some time searching your soul to come up with a list of your basic values.
By values I mean something that is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.
Intentionally create a life around which would make you the person you want to be and allow you to live the life you want to live.
Are you the type who values honesty, clean/green living and a deep love of nature above all things?
Or are you more of a ‘comforts of home’, family and fun kind of person?
Do you value charity over letting others find their way on their own, or is it the other way around?
Knowing what you truly stand for is a vital component of good decision-making.
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QUESTION 5 – What do I want to be remembered for?
I know, I know, this is a deep question but something to consider here.
What legacy do you want to leave here when you pass on?
What do you want people to say about your life and you as a person?
What do you want to be known for?
What do you NOT want to be known for?
What would you like your obituary to say about you?
Knowing where you want to end up makes choosing the path to get there, and keeping track of your progress, infinitely easier.
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I’m Frances Vidakovic – a mindset & action coach for quietly ambitious women who want to stop overthinking and finally take aligned action. I help women achieve their goals and follow through on what matters, without sacrificing their sanity or soul.