Kids Helping Kids – 7 Tips To Raise Successful Kids
Let’s chat about kids helping kids. Here are the 7 best tips to raising kids who confident and successful in life.
Want to raise kids who help other kids.
Let me ask you a question: if you had the choice of raising a child who was successful versus unsuccessful, compassionate versus not compassionate, which one would you pick?
Now for the next question: what does being successful and compassionate even mean to you?
It’s fair to say that most parents would raise their hands to say they would love to see their kids grow up to be compassionate and successful.
Thankfully as a parent, there is in fact a lot you can teach your child that will help him or her to thrive throughout their life.
It turns out that these habits and characteristics for kindness and success are most easily learned in childhood.
Once poor beliefs and habits are established, there are usually tough to extinguish without some concerted effort.
For example, anyone that’s struggled to lose weight before knows how difficult it can be to change your eating habits that may have been ingrained in you since childhood.
Take the time to think about the things that have helped you to be compassionate and successful.
What habits have helped you achieve your goals?
What qualities have you needed to embrace in order to succeed?
Not only can you learn from those situations yourself, you can also use these stories to your children’s benefit.
Share with them your experiences – the good, the bad and everything in between.
Also, think about the things that have prevented you from being more successful in the past.
Learning from your past successes and mistakes is invaluable – not just for you but for the people who hear your stories.
This wisdom of hindsight is powerful so please share this knowledge with your kids.
When we hear what worked and didn’t work for others, some of this information does sink in and often we don’t feel inclined to repeat the same mistakes.
(News alert: your kids still might make the same mistakes because they are kids of course but chances are when they KNOW better, they will DO better!)
Here are 7 strategies you can use to help your children learn how to succeed:
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TIPS # 1 – Teach your child to be a finisher.
Do you know what my pet hate word is?
It’s LATER. I will do it later.
Grrr… I think it’s because my dad used to always say to me:
If there is something on your mind that needs to be done JUST GET IT DONE! Don’t let it linger on your mind, stressing you out, don’t procrastinate. Just finish the job and if you have to do something, DO IT WELL!
Many adults would be much more successful if they simply finished what they started.
Too many people put in a lot of time and effort, only to quit before the job is complete or the goal is attained.
The good news is this is nothing more than a bad habit.
- Encourage your child to finish out the baseball season, even if he wants to quit.
- If they have started knitting a scarf, get them to finish it rather than leaving it half done.
- Same goes for their puzzles, games, books they are reading etc.
- Chores and homework are other good opportunities to learn how to finish a task.
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TIPS # 2 – Teach your child to do what needs to be done and to do it in a timely manner.
This is the opposite of procrastination.
This means studying for a test plenty of time before the test is given.
It means doing homework before playing video games.
Remember the reward comes AFTER the work is done.
It’s like my dad used to say: if it needs to be done, just get it done. Avoiding it doesn’t make it go away.
- Ask your child what they need to do and then make them do it. In time, the grumbling will lessen. In fact you will be doing them a massive favor in the long run.
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TIPS # 3 – Teach your child to be okay with failure.
If there is one thing I wish that schools taught kids it’s that “FAILURE ISN’T A TERRIBLE THING TO BE SCARED OF”.
Most children are overly sensitive about being judged by their peers.
They don’t want to be thought of as “less than” or “not smart.”
As such kids are often afraid to try anything unless they feel certain they’ll experience success.
Teach your child that failure is okay and natural.
- Reward your child for their efforts, especially when trying something new.
- Explain to them that it is through failure that we learn the right way to do things. Everyone experiences failure in this world – EVERYONE – and the best thing you can do is embrace it.
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TIPS # 4 – Keep your child physically active.
Active children sleep better, are healthier, and even do better at math.
Successful people are also more likely to be healthy and physically active.
Keep this point in mind when you tell your child to turn off the TV and go outside to play.
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TIPS # 5 – Love your child.
News alert: A loved child is a braver child.
Children who feel loved are more likely to be confident and take risks.
And we could all use some more confidence, right?
Ensure that your child is 100% confident of your love for them.
You can do this by simply saying it out loud “I love you, exactly the way you are and I am sure you will do amazing things in this world!”
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TIPS # 6 – Teach your child to persevere. This might be the greatest characteristic you can instill in your child.
It all comes down to this – NEVER EVER GIVE UP!
We all know someone who is only marginally intelligent, skilled, and talented and yet he or she always seems to succeed.
Chances are they are more determined than others and have that fighter spirit.
Those who persevere – especially during difficult times – are far more likely to be successful than those who give up the moment the going gets tough.
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TIPS # 7 – Set a good example.
This last tip is critical.
What sort of example are you setting for your own kids?
Your child is constantly watching you for clues of what to believe and how to act.
This is why it is so important that you practice what you preach.
You can’t act one way and expect your child to act another, regardless of your words.
This is what we call being a hypocrite!
Show your child how to be successful by being successful yourself.
Exhibit and embrace the traits listed above so that you can lead your kids by example.
In the end it is so important that you teach your children the important lessons they won’t learn in school.
We need to keep this in mind – that there are heaps of things they will never learn in their classroom so it is up to us to teach them these valuable lessons.
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Remember success is little more than a consistently followed set of behaviors and attitudes that are effective in our society.
Teach them to finish what they start.
Encourage them to never give up or procrastinate.
Explain to them that failure can be positive thing that they can learn from.
Keep your child physically active.
Show them your love.
Most important of all set a good example for your kids.
Do your best to be a good example of how a successful person faces the world.
Finally, I encourage
you to avoid forcing your child to figure this stuff out for themselves.
If you have information which will help them to succeed in the world, why not share it?
Be open with your knowledge.
Share your wisdom with them, and ensure they know how much you love them, believe in them and have total trust that they will succeed at anything they put their mind to.
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With a degree in psychology, Frances Vidakovic is a certified life coach, course creator and host of the Inspiring Life Podcast. Her superpower is transforming dreamers into doers, with simple, kick-up-the-butt strategies.